Ending breastfeeding naturally?

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My DD is 16, nearly 17 months now and i presumed as i did with my DS i would start to think about stopping breastfeeding around 18 months but i want her to be ready to stop i dont want it to be traumatic for her.
My DS was different as he only fed morning and nighttime (occasional overnight) from 12 months and i also introduced a milkshake at night as he refused milk on its own. When he got to 18 months i just gave him the milkshake instead of a breastfeed and he never asked for it again, easy peasy lol.
My DD is the opposite, lockdown hasnt made it any better as ive been home with her 24/7 she feeds like a newborn if i am home with her and relies on it for naps, bedtime etc. There is no way she will just go cold turkey at 18 months.
I don't know what sort of plan to make from here, i dont want to feed her beyond 2 (i have no problem with people who do but it isnt for me) she will not drinks cows milk or milkshake so i can't replace it with that. If i let her self wean im sure she would still be feeding by 3 or 4 years old. I would also like to stop so she can be put to bed by somebody else and i can finally go out for the first time since she's been born!
Anyone been in the same position?

How about getting someone else to put her to bed at first? They can offer water, my son had just water at night from one. It’s better for their teeth not to have milk at night. She may not want to go cold turkey but as you say she may not wean herself off naturally.

How well does she understand stories? My DD was 2 and a few months when we stopped, and she had no trouble with it at all. We read lots of books about it beforehand so that she knew what was going to happen and was prepared for it - Sally weans from nightnursing, Mama's milk is all gone... there were a few others I've forgotten the names of. We'd read the story and look at the pictures together until I felt that she'd understood what the story was about. Then when we were ready to drop a feed I'd remind her of the story and that she was growing up into a big girl. No drama at all. Yours might be old enough for that strategy?