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School and poos?

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Fruityb · 02/09/2020 18:56

My son turned four last week and starts school next week. He went to his childminder yesterday for a day and he had a poo and she encouraged him to clean himself up - as we have been but he just doesn’t seem to be able to reach too well! Anyway he ended up with some on his hands so she helped him get cleaned up and whatnot. She then told me when I picked him up about it and that if he did that in school I’d be getting a phone call to come and clean him up as they won’t. Like they won’t help him wash his hands off at all.

Now I don’t expect my son’s teachers or TAs to wipe his bum for him and will try my best to get him to do it his best - but would this happen? Do they ring parents if a child can’t wipe himself or if he has an accident like this? I’m a teacher myself and can’t imagine having to leave work to go and wipe my son’s bottom!! Obviously if he has a big issue then yes I would expect that - but she seems to make out like if he doesn’t do it, like at all, then I’m going to get a call. As if not being able to wipe his bum properly at this age is a major issue and akin to him needing a nappy on.

He can go to the toilet and wash his hands and he has a go at wiping but he just can’t reach it properly or doesn’t seem to know if he’s fully cleaned up. I have said to him to try not to poo at school as I’m just so worried about it after what she has said. He really does try and I’ve tried to get him to do it but then he will do it and not tell me and I’ll find a right old mess when he gets his pyjamas on or I’ll notice he smells a bit!

Is this what I should expect or do they get any help? I’m totally clueless with Early Years!

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user24 · 02/09/2020 19:45

Following As I have similar worries!

ladyvimes · 02/09/2020 19:51

Don’t think many schools will have a problem with this. They’ll definitely help him wash his hands and encourage him with wiping (although won’t wipe for him). I’d let them know on his first day that he needs a reminder to wipe properly/wash hands well. He definitely won’t be the only one who finds this tricky and they will have seen it all before!

Fruityb · 02/09/2020 20:42

Thank you for that. I’m sure they have seen it - my CM is prone to hyperbole - and that’s why it hasn’t occurred to me that they’d call me to sort him! He’s only just four and so in my head he’s still so little (though he’s a smart little guy) and therefore it’s something to maybe expect or at least not be surprised by!

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Letsallscreamatthesistene · 03/09/2020 11:51

My friend is a reception teacher and she has at least one child per year that has poo problems in one form or another. Shes never phoned the parents to come and deal with it, its always dealt with at school. If the child was having accidents routinely she may ask the parents to send the child to school with a change of clothes. If I were in your position id just let the teacher know, and its more than likely they'll just be extra vigilant about hand washing when your son has finished in the toilet.

Fruityb · 03/09/2020 15:00

I’ll stop fretting then! Apparently DS told his daddy this morning that he poos at home and wees at school 🤦🏻‍♀️ But hey he listened!

I don’t want him to be scared to do it at school at all but my CM has put the fear in me as she always does.

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