Would you be with someone who didn't want kids?

[littlebearegg]

This is really tough.

I have met some one who I utterly adore. We have such a great relationship, we never argue or fall out. Always compromise and it just seems too good to be true.

He has two children, from two previous relationships.

I have a son.

So full time it's my partner, myself and my son. And we see his dd in half terms/holidays as she lives far away and the ds mess frequently due to other matters; not dp related.

Anyway.

I've always said I'd love another child. I've always been so maternal.

But dp and I were talking, and I know he's being realistic but he mentioned that with three children between us, financially it might put a strain on him. He also said for selfish and personal reasons he's not sure he could have another baby with a third woman...

I cried, won't lie! As I wouldn't want to leave him because of this but it's also very hard to come to terms with.

He said later on in life if work goes well; then it may be a possibility...

Have you been in this situation? Any advice? Thank you xxx

If I didn’t have any children then no but if I had 1 and he had 2 I’d probably make peace with his choice and enjoy the time the kids are with their other parents.
Only you know how much you want more children.

You are right, I know this.

I think we might compromise on a dog?! Haha

If you want more children, he is not the man for you. However, there are lots of things to consider. Could you afford another child? You could leave him only to discover down the road you can't conceive again, or you may not find another suitable partner before your ability to have another baby is over. You have to decide what is more important. The great relationship and child you have now, or a possible child you may never have.

He hasn't got a great track record, has he?

You toe is so far from the reality of your post that answers will be different.

In your case I wouldn't have a baby with your partner due to him already having two kids by two women and if can't be his bad luck that both women didn't stick around due to their issues imo.

Generally, I wouldn't be with someone who didn't want kids as I do. I left one boyfriend as he didn't want to get married. Didn't even bother asking about kids as I wouldn't have children without being married.

He hasn't got a great track record, has he? get off your high horse, two relationships that don’t work out is hardly pearl clutching! If he pays for and sees his children where’s the issue.

I left my husband as he changed his mind and decided he didn't want kids and as I was 34, it was a no brainer for me.
In your situation I would probably try to come to terms with it if everything else is so good.
I have two now and used to regret not trying for a third. It has certainly got better over time and I don't think about it anymore.

@Aquamarine1029 thank you for that, it is true. I suffer from endometriosis so could be difficult for me to conceive in the future. Financially... I think we'd struggle yes. If I really thought about it.

Would you be saying the same if it was a woman who had two children from two different men....?

He had a brilliant relationship with his children not that it's any of your business.

One mother cheated on him and the other just wanted him for a baby!

Has* that should say. He suffered badly in the past with mental health due to the second mother being very difficult. Please don't be so judgemental.

Title obviously, not toe .