Having a hard day

[Emmaaa1990]

Hey

Just come on for some support/to rant. Feel like I'm having a shit day and my baby has made me cry! She's just turned 16 weeks and the last few days she has drained me! Suddenly waking up more in the night, fussing lots, seems agg a lot and I feel like she's always tired! I know there is some form of sleep regression around this time coupled with the fact I'm sure she's starting to teeth. I just feel like she's so needy and I have no time to relax! Please someone tell me this passes?! Just feeling pretty drained and tired today 😓

4 months is a TOUGH time. Definitely the hardest stage in my experience. They get tired, but won’t go to sleep and just scream instead.....

No time to relax is pretty standard at this age unless you have someone that can give you a bit of a break. It doesn’t get better overnight, but there are little improvements all the time from this stage - sleep won’t be this awful forever (although some DC take a loooooong time to get it completely sorted, my DD was late to sleep through), nor will they be so clingy. When they can sit up well, they are more entertained by things, which gives you a bit of a break. As they learn to move, they will be satisfied for longer (obviously you need to child proof carefully if you’re going to take your eye off them!) and if baby/toddler groups are open again by then you’ll find those a wonderful respite as they’ll be far morE interested in the other babies than you.

You’ll get through it. At the end of each day, celebrate that you got through that day and have one less day of this phase to get through.

@crazychemist Thankyou so much for your kind words! Definitely is a hard time! We seem to have good and bad days but yesterday was particularly bad.
I'm trying so hard not to create bad sleep habits too so I always make sure she goes in her crib drowsy but awake and she more often than not puts herself to sleep luckily! But there has been a few nights where she's woken more and just been grizzly.

Last night however she was really good again, we adjusted her bedtime and put her to bed slightly earlier think she must have needed it!

It's good to hear that things will get easier as she becomes more mobile! Yes deffo need to get baby proofing! Yeah I'm dying to go to baby groups they still don't seem to be happening by me 🙄

Thankyou so much I will deffo be celebrating each day, that's a great way to look at it 😊

Good luck with sleep! There's an awful lot of tweaking at that age - I found more or less as soon as I'd got a routine sorted in my head, my DD's needs would change! That slows down an awful lot as they get older and you can stick to one routine for months on end before anything needs to change, which makes everything more predictable and relaxing.

I'm desperately hoping that baby/toddler groups reopen by January! The children's centre near me have said definitely not before then, and I'm very worried that they will lose funding and just not reopen. I'm expecting twins at the beginning of November, so would hope to be getting out and about with them in the New Year. Fingers crossed for both of us that things reopen soon.

@crazychemist Thankyou so much! It's like a ticking time bomb isn't it! One day all good then all of a sudden not! Yeah feel like that will be so much easier as she grows! Not to wish the time away as I will probably miss this age when she's older but I can't wait til she's abit more predictable!

God I know! Just want everything to go back to normal now it's crazy, lots of other places are open dont get why these groups can't. Not much support during this corona period! Oh wowww congratulations, do you know what sex they are?