Blaming the other parent

[MrsG2017]

I just wanted to check in on some other peoples opinions as I don't have a close network I can talk too.

My toddler 3 was climbing on his climbing frame and fell off - probably was my fault if I'm honest but he's ok.

My husband makes inadvertent comments about to allude to it being my fault .... is mummy being a clown again etc etc

It just doesn't sit right with me I'd never blame anyone for a toddlers accident these things happen.

Am I being over sensitive or is he being an ass?

If it was your fault and the comments are just “is mummy being a clown”, as you say, then you are being over sensitive in my opinion.

The statement “is mummy being a clown” is so vague that I don’t see how it even connects to the incident. It is more likely to be about you being silly and funny making the child laugh.

Guilty conscience because you think it was your fault is what might be making you think he’s alluding to the climbing frame unless you have a better example allusion?

I think your attitude is a lot healthier than his. Toddlers are going to fall as they become adventurous . Obviously you watch them as well but you cant expect to prevent every fall or tumble and it wouldn't be good for them if you did. Something will happen in his care too.

I blame everything bad that my DC do on his side of the family, everything good comes from my side.
He claims the same however. 😀

Your not being overly sensitive, you know your husband better than anyone else and understand that it is a subtle dig at you.

One of the most difficult things as a parent is that you suddenly have another person in your life who you start to love more as much your other half, if not more.

It is difficult when the person you love is hurt by another person you love, you want to protect your little one and make sure it doesn't happen again, but not hurt your other half. The result is these under the breath, half truth comments, designed to make a point without hurting you.

It comes from a place of love and he just cares about you both. Try to understand it rather than change him, he is just trying to be a good dad.

I'm with you on this. Why does there need to be blame apportioned for a very normal occurrence? Kids fall over and bump themselves all the time. That your son gets the opportunity to take reasonable physical challenges is a good thing.

We don't know what your relationship with DH is like. What does he say when you tell him how his comments make you feel? I wouldn't like it, especially in front of your child.

If it makes you feel better DD2 is currently sporting a rather vivid black eye because she fell over a shoe. This complements a bruise on her forehead and a chipped front tooth - I have no idea how those happened!

Well tell dh to supervise him next time...
Shove them out in the garden and have a cuppa!

I think he’s being unkind; my DD has had a couple of minor accidents (falls, bumps to the head) in both of our care which in theory could have been prevented but we either didn’t realise, didn’t get there in time, were distracted or at times just stupid things to have let her do but neither of us criticises each other for it; we’ll talk about how to prevent it but it doesn’t help to make the other person feel bad about it when they already do.

He's being an arse. All toddlers have these accidents