I'm a single parent of an only child, so how do I teach my dd to....

[Earlybird]

.....fight her corner (when necessary), and then resolve conflict (when needed)? She doesn't see me doing it at home with a dh/dp, and she doesn't get to experience the normal give/take between siblings.

School seem to think the ability to resolve conflict is an essential social skill that every child should acquire/develop. ATM, dd's solution is to walk away or get an adult to intervene.

Any suggestions? Examples of reasonable standing-up-for-yourself conflict/conflict resolution between children would be helpful.

I would think that the school playground is as good a place as any. She will learn what people say and do just by watching and listening. She might just be the sort of even-tempered girl who is strong enough to walk away and thats a great strength.

The other thoughts that came to mind were (1) inviting a few friends over at the same time. Two of them will always have a difference of opinion and she will learn from that. I don't mean to say you should encourage an argy bargy just that whether she is involved or not, she will learn how to get the best out of the situation. (2) it might be a long shot but drama classes often act out situations like this.

How old is she? I agree that she will learn just by watching and listening others. That's how everyone else learns.
At the moment she is resolving things with what's available to her - walking away or getting an adult. If she gets an adult then she will watch and learn off the adult.

Thanks for thoughts so far. She's 6.8.

Arm her with a set of reasonable responses to recurring situations. Not retaliation or insults but things she can say to get her point across without having to run away, eg. It hurts my feelings when you say/do that, please stop it. 'I don't think that is fair' Etc. Sorry if v obvious but I think sometimes the words dont' just come into their heads at the time.

Earlybird's dd isn't running away. She is walking away. Presumably when it's something that she isn't too bothered about. If she was bothered then she gets an adult. Or at least that's the way I've interpreted the op. I think that's quite a mature thing for her to do.

I agree, I was offering alternatives because thats what the op asked for, isn't it? Run/walk was not meant in offence, bold letters etc ??