2 month old bedtime

[JadeLemonade]

Hay, FTM looking for a bit of advice around bedtime.

I’m trying to start a bedtime routine for my 8 week old. She generally dozes off while feeding around 10pm. I’d like to try and gradually move this a bit earlier to around 8pm eventually. The only problem is that I’m unsure if it’s better to go up to bed with her at this time? (Seems a bit early for an adults bedtime though)

Or is it better to get her to sleep and leave her downstairs with us until we go up bed then transfer her into her Moses basket.

I don’t want to leave her upstairs on her own untill she’s 6 months.

What did you do?

I started a bit of a routine at 12 weeks (8 would have been too early for us) but then just held her while she slept and watched TV upstairs for an hour or so before transferring to cot. She naturally fell asleep around 9pm and that got gradually earlier until at 4-5 months it was closer to 7pm. By then she was in her own room and didn't need holding to sleep anymore so we put her to bed.

It was a gradual process and I appreciate that some would rather be in the same room for 6 months but we were happy with our decision. Do what works for you and your baby.

So from about 10-12 weeks I would take them up just before 7, start bed time routine and then would stay with them until the 10pm dream feed and I’d go to sleep after that.

Yes it meant about 3 months of being upstairs with them but I just took the opportunity to cuddle them and watch tv.

With my first I was quite frustrated being stuck upstairs but the time went so quickly. With DS2 I’ve really enjoyed the extra time with him and it goes so quickly they’ll be in their own room soon enough

Yeah, I suppose 3 or 4 months of early nights doesn’t seem that long. I think I’m being ambitious thinking that we’ll get into a routine quickly but it’s good to know what everyone else dose xx

Baby 4 months here. We do bedtime for him around 9pm and dh and I go up at the same time. It’s been fine actually as means dh and I aren’t exhausted if baby wakes a lot as we are having an earlier bedtime as well.
I usually feed baby to sleep and then either snooze myself if tired, or spend an hour in bed reading first

Hey op, our first dip into the world of routines was when DD was 8 weeks old. We set 8pm as the time when all the lights, TVs and voices were off or low iyswim. We went to bed with her for a couple of months and just listened to music on headphones or whatever - you don't have to do that obviously but we were knackered anyway lol.

She is now 16 months and has slept through with maybe 5- 10 times as an exception, 7-6 since 9 months. I do think establishing a routine is important and it starts off simple and grows organically into whatever works for you guys

My Ds was prem so slightly different. For medical reasons, he had to be fed 4 hourly round the clock (more if needed). His last decent feed was 8, he's a windy baby so by 9 we were done, he was in a fresh nappy and I went to bed with him. But I had to be up at 12 to feed him, which was closer to 2 hours because he was asleep. Same at 4, then 8am. Thankfully he slept again till noon and so did i but if I'd stayed up after 8pm feed or after 8am feed I'd have been a wreck.