How did you know you wanted 2 children?

[NetflixandBrill]

Just that really, I have a 4 year old who will be going to school and thinking about having another but then think am I mad to start this all over again, when I'm only just getting some of my time back?

My 4 year old is very challenging and clingy to me and I'm sure this will get better once he goes to school but I'm not sure if adding another baby into the mix will make things worse for him? I don't want to make a huge mistake basically.

Anyone else that went for it and it turned out all ok? Or did you decide to stick with one? I've no problem with him being an only child, maybe it would be nice for him to have a brother or sister in later life but I've seen myself how many families where siblings are not a big part of each others lives.

I wanted two (+) because personally, the best part of my childhood was having a sibling. My sister is my best friend. Our age gap, and the gap between my DC, is much smaller than yours would be though, they wouldn't really be much good as playmates for each other during childhood though that wouldn't stop them being close, necessarily.

Thanks, I think the age gap would be like having 2 only children in a way which kind of puts me off

I’m an only child and always wanted a sibling; DH is from a larger family (4 kids) and they’re all really nice to each other, so I thought it would be great for mine to have a sibling.
Of course, they fight a lot.🤣. But, they do have times when they confide in each other and keep
each other company. They’re 15 and 12 so I think it’ll be different when they’re older. My SIL’s are nearly nine years apart but still v. close. DH is close to his brother, who’s five years older.

being an only is fine too, just a different family dynamic.

I was really broody for a second child within a year of having my first. If I hadn't felt that way I imagine I would have stopped at one child.

I think my judgement is clouded which doesn't help, I have 2 siblings who I'm not particularly close to and when my Dad was suffering with ill health neither were helpful and it all fell down to me.

Maybe I should flip a coin, as it really feels like an impossible decision!

I found out when my wife said I'm pregnant again.

@NetflixandBrill there's a benefit to you having more children - if you're in the same situation as your Dad one day there will be more people to shoulder the load. They'll have an easier time of it and you'll be better looked after