Help me get over my desire for a third

[pinguwings]

Firstly, I apologise if this is hugely insensitive to anyone struggling with infertility or secondary infertility. I know I am so bloody lucky.

I have a nearly three year old and a 7 month old.

My husband has said no more. I had two horrific pregnancies; multiple hospitalisations and HG throughout. I've just had the implant fitted.

My husband is right. I know this. Financially, physically, emotionally, two is enough.

But I feel so desperately sad that this is it. I have always pictured myself with three children. I have loved parenting so far, I honestly feel like it's the only thing I've ever been any good at. I'm loving watching our girls grow up together. Why is this not enough for me?

I sobbed and sobbed last night (to myself) bagging up the baby gym and bouncer.

I'm terrified that if I can't learn to accept that there's no more children then I will start to resent DH.

Can anyone just give my head a huge shake?

You need a bigger car, potentially bigger house, a psychiatrist(haha)! It is a lot more money with a 3rd. Everything is aimed at a 2child family.
I have a 3rd- not planned but very loved. But he has ruined us financially compared to the other 2. Wouldn’t change it now, as he is here and very real, but my life would have been a lot simpler and as a family much better quality of life. I wouldn’t be killing myself trying to earn extra money, and we wouldn’t have had to remortgage.
But, he is an absolute beauty, and I am happy to do killer hours as I love his cuddles and cheeky little grin and all the other lovely things he does.
It is very hard, but if you have the choice then I get where you are coming from.

Your baby is only 7months though, lots of people say no more in the baby stage but then change their mind later on.
Dont be sad right now you never know feelings may change.

My third screamed and screamed and I was fobbed off by HV, GP and so on. The experience broke me.

You have 2 happy healthy DC, don't gamble.

Also you could have 3, 4, 5, 6 DC and still feel the same. I have 4 DC I could have happily carried on!!!

Going through my second HG pregnancy now and I’m so miserable. Never. Ever. Again.

Personally I’m feeling dubious about the newborn phase and lack of sleep again. We’ve just got our first completely nappy free and we’ll be back up to our elbows in nappies in 10 weeks time! Back to being restricted to nap times etc. This baby is very much wanted but I’m already thinking ahead to when I have a 3 and 6 yr old and sleepless nights, naps and nappies are far behind us and we can just go out and enjoy whole days out. Personally I’m already done with the pregnancy/baby phase and my second isn’t even here yet

Get a puppy.

I feel the same, I have a 3 year old and a 8 month old. I had horrible pregnancies, HG and SPD/PGP both times and was signed off for the majority of my pregnancies.

However I don't feel like I am "done". DP is on board with a third but we would have to move house, possibly get a bigger car. Who knows, the feeling might fade at some point!