Eating at relative's house with 1 year old

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My DD (nearly14 months) will usually eat what we do and with us, sitting at the table with her high chair. To accommodate this we usually have lunch at about 12/12.30. It's so much easier to eat all together rather than feed her first and then for us to have something. We have been invited to a relative's house for Sunday lunch. The relative has said she will make some food for DD ready for 12/12.30 and the grown ups will have theirs later. I know it'll be very hard to keep DD happy/quiet when we are eating if she isn't eating too. Would it be rude to ask everyone to eat a little earlier to accommodate DD routine? Or does anyone have any tips how I can keep the little one entertained while the grown ups eat? She will be the only child there.
Thanks in advance!

Just shove her a Yorkshire when you have yours!
You really can't expect people to live by your dd's routine!

Can’t she just eat later when the grown ups do? Maybe have a little snack at 12:30. That’s what we do. I don’t expect people to fit into my routine

If not like PP said just give her a bit of yours when you eat

Just give her a breadstick or something while you eat.

Yes, it would.

Either give her some more food in her high chair when you are all eating or give her something else to do while you are eating. Like take one of her favourite toys and don't get it out until everybody is actually sitting down.

Or a combination. Give her food, involve her in what's going on at the table then when she's had enough get her down and unleash the toy,

Bless. Give her a little something to ride her over if she needs it and then sit her up and give her some Sunday roast to play with when you all sit down. Big late Sunday lunches with toddlers and family are the best. Worth waiting for.

Tide her over. Lol.

Totally unreasonable I'm afraid. Why not just give her a snack at 12 and then she can eat with everyone else later. There's no way I'd be hungry enough to eat a full Sunday lunch at 12.

If I was invited I would be expecting to eat about 1 or 2ish, I'd fwel sorry for the hosts if they served it so early as I just wouldn't enjoy it as much.

Feed her at her usual time. Then allow her to have seconds when you eat.

I used to be 'that mum' that demanded we eat earlier......but no one ever suggested they would get kids food ready early for me....it seems you have a win win situation. Your daughter can stick to routine. your host can eat when they prefer.

As your daughter is the only child there will be enough adults to give her some attention while you eat. Do what others have suggested - keep a couple of favourite toys, and stick on the TV after half an hour is she is a bit fractious.

(Or if you are going to eat quite late - take her for a walk in the buggy after lunch and see if she will have her afternoon nap.)

Mine just gets two lunches. We give him a smallish lunch around twelve, pack everyone in the car, let him nap all the way to my parents', give him second lunch at two with everyone.

Sometimes he throws it or tries to feed granda instead of eating, but eh, worse things have happened to both granda and the floor and it does make the dog happy.

For his other granny, we just let him go a bit longer because she lives closer.

At 14 months my dc would have happily had 2 lunches - especially if roasties were on offer!!
Ime you need to be more flexible with dc if you intend to ever leave the house.. Imo my friends dc 'suffered' as her youngest would only nap at home in his cot. Any plans were cut short due to little Jonnny's schedule..

Give her a late breakfast and snack. Kids are only as rigid as you allow

Oh no please don't ask everyone to eat earlier. Just feed her, give her some snacks or a bit of yours while you eat later to keep her entertained.

Did they actually want your baby at the table while the grown ups are eating? Isn’t that what the relative means by the grownups eating later - they don’t want to eat with a baby there?

Yes, it would be rude to try to dictate what time the host caters for everyone, and to expect everyone there to change their schedule to suit your baby. I’m sure you know what tactics will keep your baby distracted more than anyone else

Yes unreasonable sorry- very kind they want to make food earlier for them. As others have said give her finger food etc whilst you eat. Will you be fully able to relax and eat? Nope sorry- the joys of toddlers at dinner tables. Also don’t worry if you need to resort to the tv or a screen to entertain for one meal.

Just feed her more food as a one off it really doesn't matter.

You can't dictate lunch times.

My 12 month old DS is known as two lunches in these situations because he likes to have an early lunch at 11.30/12 and then a second lunch with us later.

Honestly I’d feed earlier and then whip out a screen to entertain while you eat. And I’m pretty strict on routine!

Sorry but I would not be happy having screen time at the table if I was hosting or indeed a guest!!
Not a good habit for getting a dc into imo.
Invest in a cheap /folding high chair.. A few veggies/etc on the tray is acceptable to everyone surely?
Setting a dc up to expect screen time won't make you popular when you go to a restaurant.

I don’t think the odd occasion is a habit. But hey each to their own- most people would rather a quiet lunch than an unsettled 1 yr old

Thanks for your comments everyone - I'll try two lunches, she's a good little eater anyway! @daisypond I hope they will have the baby at the table, or I will just walk with her to leave the others in peace if she kicks off. @OnlyFoolsnMothers I'm not expecting a relaxed lunch, I just don't want to annoy anyone. For that reason a screen is a no - I'd rather go for a walk and miss lunch and not upset anyone!