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HELP needed desperatly..!!! Do I potty train now or wait........

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shhhh · 04/10/2007 20:50

Right, dd is 2.4 years and still in nappies. Not to much of a concern for me tbh as I had intentions of finally starting it end of Nov. Reasons...........

1.ds (8 months) has been ill since birth and is finally on the road to recovery...hopefully no more hospital stays etc.

2.We are off on holiday next thurs so wanted to wait so we weren't in the throws of potty training etc....esp being away from home and plane trips etc...

Well I think our plans to start Nov have gone to pot(ty) and I have a feeling we should have started earlier.

Reason why, today dd was a nightmare to stay in nappies. She tried removing it during her lunchtime nap and had this morning removed it totally,hid in the corner and had a poo on it .
I have constantly said to her to say if she wanted a poo and I would put her onto the toilet etc but nothing....

My question: DO I POTTY TRAIN NOW OR PERSEVERE WITH NAPPIES TILL AFTER THE HOLS..??!!!!!

I worry that if I start now I will be in the midst of things come the holiday next thursday and this holiday has been a long wait.....................I also feel bad holding dd back iykwim.

Advice please...xx

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nimnom · 04/10/2007 21:21

Go on holiday and enjoy yourself. A week or two won't make a difference.

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shhhh · 04/10/2007 21:25

So you think we should just persevere with nappies and encourage her to keep them on...?

Im fine with this but didn't want to cause any issues further down the line iykwim..!

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pneumalifenewname · 04/10/2007 21:26

God, I'd wait til it's warm again!

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Ponka · 04/10/2007 21:29

I wouldn't potty train just before a holiday. It sounds like too much hard work. It takes a fair while for them to get the hang of it and you don't want to be constantly worrying about accidents where you are going when you are supposed to be enjoying yourself.

I'd try and stall it for a while longer.

Dragonhart · 04/10/2007 21:44

Could you try pull ups? Then if she asks you can take her but if not there is nothing to worry about and you can relax on your holiday.

Then you can ditch them when you get back and get going properly?

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shhhh · 04/10/2007 21:46

I would love to wait will next summer BUT feel I would get to much pressure iykwim .

Ok,so seems best thing is to wait...God she's only 2 and im already thinking of her feelings etc..!!!

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shhhh · 04/10/2007 21:47

Pull ups is an option..I have loads as on offer at Tesco a month or so ago ...!!!

Maybe take them away....

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fishie · 04/10/2007 21:50

i had a surprise with ds training himself but it was fine. next thursday is ages, try no nappies at home and provide a potty. if she is aware enough to poo on the nappy you are more than half way there and she'll just keep taking it off anyway.

Dragonhart · 04/10/2007 21:56

I pt ds when he started refusing his nappy and trying to take it off and it took a long time. I wish I had waited but felt that as I had started I should carry on.

I wouldnt feel rushed and I will be waiting longer with dd when it is time to pt her. It sounds like you have had a rough few months so I would just relax about it all and take your time.

Dragonhart · 04/10/2007 21:58

I'm not trying to disuade you and if you have time, it is worth trying as fishie says. They are all different aren't they!

fishie · 04/10/2007 22:02

do not understasnd why anyone would want to wait if child ready.

Dragonhart · 04/10/2007 22:19

It is difficult to know when they are though dont you think. I was sure ds was but it took us a long time with lots of accidents/washing/scrubbing carpets. My nephew was trained in 3 days at 2.8. I know what I would prefer!

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shhhh · 04/10/2007 22:21

fishie,think its possibly due to the "rolled" eyes you get when you mention potty training...............its a job us mums and dads hate..! I have never pt so its something new for me BUT already I dread it and I have never experienced it..! Maybe thats why mums/dads put it off..!

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Dragonhart · 04/10/2007 22:34

Yes, when I said I was having problems on here, lots of people said I should stop but every time I thought I would he had afew really good days.

But if your ds did it quickly then I can see that you would think there was no problem. I am hoping dd is like that!

Not trying to put you off shhh! When they are done it is so much better than changing nappies (esp if you are changing 2 lots!). Will keep my fingers crossed that your dd is done in afew days.

gigglewitch · 04/10/2007 22:41

give it a go, see what the score, and do pull-ups for travel and trips out on hols (if she'll put up with) because if she really has got the idea she'll tell you anyway, and pull-ups save accidents and worry when u are away from home. we've got those "feel and learn" ones (also because they've been on offer in tesco) and they seem to be good. My DD wears reluctantly but tends to stay dry.

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shhhh · 04/10/2007 22:50

so go on then..how do I start..? Do I put her in knickers so she is more likely to go to the toilet (possibly after a few accidents iykwim)..then do I put her into pull ups while out and still ask and encourage her to use the toilet...???

HELP..!!!! or are pull ups just to replac the nappy while out..?

Dragonhart,changing nappies for 2 lo's is not fun..! esp when one has just had major bowel surgery and atm produced 15+ nappies a day.! I feel like im forever changing nappies and no joke..my home smells of sh1t...!

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fishie · 04/10/2007 22:56

i don't think pull ups are any use. pants or nappies otherwise you risk confusion.

ds had the idea of not weeing in nappy from the outset, nothing to do with me. but he still cannot manage clothes at all.

micromummy · 04/10/2007 22:59

we started because ds wanted too. he is still having 1+ wee accidents a day and ALL poos in pants after 2.5 months or so and my life seems to revolve round where/when the next accident will be...(but too far down the line now to go back to nappies)...you sound like you deserve a holiday without that kind of stress

fishie · 04/10/2007 22:59

sorry, on way to bed and slow posting.

take nappy off, bare bottom. provide potty and loo. discuss (and have available) rewards and what she'll do. see what happens. put into nappy at bedtime. she will need a wee immediately on waking from nap.

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shhhh · 04/10/2007 23:05

right,will see what we decide what we do.......

seen as its only a few weeks wait, we may start as planned after the holiday. Thanks for the advice....need to get rewards etc in !!!

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Dragonhart · 04/10/2007 23:07

Poor babyshhh Hope he is on the mend.

We started with no pants or nappies for afew days then after he was doing most wees on the potty, tried him in pants which led to a slight relapse as think he felt like he had a nappy on. Then ventured out after about a week and took lots of changes of clothes.

I agree that if you are properly training, pull ups confuse them (we had another set back when we used them) but if you dont make it by the holiday they are better than going backinto nappies imo.

Pull ups are a bit of a controversial topic though arent they? I do think they have their place. I have been using them at night as it means that if ds wakes he can have a wee, but if he doesnt it is ok. H eis not ready to tackle the night yet (or is that me!?)

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