Mum struggling to cope

[SuperMum28]

Hello,

I wanted to come here as I dont want to speak to anyone else.

I am married just over a year we have 2 children who are 11 and 5. My husband and myself both work full time atm.

I am starting a Nursing degree in September but I am worried that I wont be able to cope with the added stress. (I will giving up my job for this)

Home life is proving difficult my 5 year olds behaviour is not great, he will not do as he is asked always annoying his sibling and always answering back. Bedtime is so stressful it takes around 1/2 hours to settle him. (We do bath time and story time then a cuddle)

I feel like everything gets left to myself to do for example housework take the dog our sort kids school clothes bath them ect.

I ask for help from my husband and try to explain that I feel like I cant cope anymore but I dont seem to get a response he will help out then it will be back to normal the next day. His job is alot more intense and harder than mine.

I feel like I am failing as a parent, all i is the best for my family.

Hi OP. Im a nurse and did my degree 5 or so years ago now. I think you already know this, but during clinical placements you needs to be available to work any hours (earlies, lates, long days, nights, weekends). Your husband will NEED to step up and do things whilst you're not there. Does he realise this?

The degree is full on with regards to the time it requires, but imo totally worth it. I love being a nurse.

You've got a DH problem. Reframe your idea of "helping" - it's also his house, his kids, his responsibility to do his share. It doesn't matter what he does to make money, he also has a responsibly to be an active member of his household. I'd talk to him about dividing up tasks and allocate some chores to your kids if you don't already - they are old enough to take on age-appropriate levels of responsibility.

If also say to not be too hard on yourself - we've been in lockdown for over 5 months and it's made parenting tough for lots of parents. Your 5yo will be back in school soon and hopefully you'll see a change in behaviour.

Hi, thank you both for commenting.
I seem to find it easier to speak to strangers than anyone else.
I have took unwell the past few days and I have seen a huge difference in my husband as I have been to unwell to do anything.
We have chatted about sharing the jobs around the house, I dont think he realised how hard it was juggling everything myself.

Thank you both x