Help - I'm so broody at 4 months postpartum!

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I have a DS who is 4 months old, but I already feel extremely broody and love the idea of having babies closer together now that I've had my DS.

Always thought I'd want a 2-3 year gap but now the thought of waiting that long is so alien to me.

Me and my partner are considering TTC in January next year, when our son is 9 months old. So roughly an 18 month gap (depending on how quick we conceive), although my partner isn't overly keen on the idea.

Anyone felt like this? Am I crazy?!

In a similar position, although my little one will be a year in December - think we might start trying again in January. Are we mad?! Must be the hormones!

Congrats on your baby OP 🎉

I was broody from about a month until... well DS is 14 months and I’m still broody now! DH lost his job back in the spring else I think I’d be pregnant right now 😂 definitely TTC as soon as he gets a new job.

My sister has a 15 month age gap and the boys are a really good advert for it. They play so nicely together. Also have sisters with 3 and 4 year age gaps and there doesn’t appear to be much difference in the first couple of months. They’re sleep deprivation all sounds as hellish as each other. There appear to be a few pros and cons of the different age gaps which probably just depend on your circumstances.

Ahhhh, hormones! I was the same. I’m not saying it completely goes away (I did want a second one, and am currently pregnant), but I think you do get some irrational urges at that stage!

Personally, I decided to go for a larger gap than you are thinking. I wanted to avoid needing a double buggy, two high chairs etc etc (although this plan has backfired as I’m expecting twins!!!) and I didn’t want to have to coordinate napping schedules). When my DT arrive, my DD will be at preschool 4 days a week, which I think is going to be a bit of a sanity saver for me - I don’t think I could cope with 3 at home all the time! (Not saying it can’t be done, but I want SOME time to myself!)

I know some people who have a very close age gap. It is very tough for a while when you have two in nappies, two to pay for childcare, two having toddler tantrums. But when they're a bit older it's easier as they're closer in age so can share a room, more likely to have similar interests, play together nicely.

Its swings and roundabouts really. No age gap is perfect.

As long as it's not twins 😂 that happened to a friend of mine - 18 month gap and the second was twins.

Wow, I was so traumatised after having my son that I couldn't even fathom sleeping with my husband until 18 months afterwards! Good luck - sounds like you've taken to motherhood much better than I ever did!

I think there must be something about the 4 months mark. I only ever wanted 2 babies but when DD2 was 2 months old I really wanted a third. I soon changed my mind.

I was so broody when my DD was a newborn, maybe because she was easy and I had time on my hands, or perhaps it’s mother nature’s way of getting another on the way before the first hits the toddler years... because the toddler years are knackering!!