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14 Month Old Will Not Sleep Help Please

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TiredMum2020 · 23/08/2020 11:01

Hi, first time poster (have read various threads on here over the years though). My daughter was born in June last year. She’s absolutely wonderful apart from sleep which is getting worse by the day 🙈 As a newborn she would wake up very frequently but I didn’t mind as she was after milk (she was also a big baby) and she would go back off after being rocked to sleep. The problem continued with needing to be rocked to sleep all the time but as I was a first time mum (and probably a bit too soft!) I continued rocking her as she got older. This is still the case or needing a bottle to go to sleep (which I’ve heard they shouldn’t have past 12 months 🤷‍♀️). If she does manage to go to sleep, she will wake almost every hour throughout the night. I’ve also made a rod for my own back recently with letting her get in bed with me as that’s all she wants now but I was getting to the point of pure exhaustion. She has always been terrible with naps and will never go down for them. She will nap perhaps in the car or pram or on me but will never go in her cot for a nap. This also doesn’t help as I feel she is is so overtired. However, this past month she has been the worst she’s ever been. She is very clingy with me and will only want me to do bedtimes and will scream if my husband even tries (she was hysterical last night because he dared to touch the book we were reading). In the day she loves her dad so much but on a night, it’s got to be me. I’m feeling worn out and I want to be the best I can be for her, but at the moment I look and feel a frazzled mess. I’m wondering if anyone can give me some advice. We have tried shushing and stroking her, the tiniest amount of controlled crying (but I just don’t think this suits us), different bedtimes etc. Her usual routine is: Get up 6ish (can be later with a bad night, can sometimes be 4:45 🙃), breakfast, play or go out somewhere and have a snack, she used to have a nap around 11am but this seems to have gone to pot, dinner around 12, play/be out somewhere/see grandma etc with a snack, tea around 5, bath around 6, pjs and stepee Grobag on in the hopes of having a bottle around 7. I’m thinking is the bath to bottle (and I know we really shouldn’t be doing the bottle) too dragged out and is this causing issues? Thanks in advance

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TiredMum2020 · 23/08/2020 11:04

Sorry for the long post! Any help would be appreciated- Thank you

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Footlooseandfancy · 23/08/2020 12:41

Sounds really tough OP, we've had periods of awful sleep and it's so so exhausting.

She sounds completely overtired for a start - sleep begets sleep so I'd make a nap in late morning/lunchtime a priority, especially as she's getting up so early.

With nighttime sleep, I'd look at sleep training - we did controlled crying to get my DD to learn to go to sleep by herself but also helped with the night waking. One of my friends has similar success with gradual retreat and another with pick up put down. There will be crying with whatever method you pick but personally for me I was so exhausted that it wasn't even an option to continue doing what we were doing.

My 2yo is all me at the moment and it's hard being the go to person all the time.Flowers

TiredMum2020 · 23/08/2020 17:39

Thank you - will definitely look into it xxx

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