Anyone else's baby do this? 9 months

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He's really happy during the day, loves me and dh although prefers me for comfort generally as I'm breastfeeding. I'm needed for all naps which is fine (he falls asleep on or next to me and then I leave). Generally very happy and well attached baby.

Sometimes his day naps are a bit all over the place though and he gets very excited so can be overtired. I spend so much of my day trying to get naps right but obviously it doesn't always work.

I'll put him to bed 7ish but sometimes he'll wake up after a sleep cycle when I've gone for a shower and be absolutely devastated sobbing. I think it's because he's still tired as when he wakes from naps in the day he's OK.

Dh will go in to comfort him. He'll hold, soothe, skin to skin or whatever but nothing works and be gets hysterical so I have to run out of the shower. He doesn't even want milk I just need to go to him. Whenever he wakes at this time it happens. It happens maybe once a week or sometimes half the week. Always has.
Normally it's fine as he gets back to sleep and then is OK for the rest of the night, waking for occasional feeds but no fuss.

Some nights like tonight though he cried even longer and then wouldn't go back to sleep. He doesn't want milk, keeps winging then almost sleeping then waking and crying, getting really close to me. Anything and everything seems to wake him and soon an hour has passed and he's obviously v awake and crawling around the bed but also exhausted. In honestly drives me a bit insane! I sometimes hand him over to dh but then he gets upset again or just starts playing more and then we're up until 10pm.

He's 9 months. Anyone else?

I try and ignore him but he just pinches and grabs me

oh and all on our bed. We see no point moving him out atm.

I feel like my evenings are stressful but also it's crap for him as he's waking up and all stressed out too!

Hey,
Babies are always going through phases and when you think you are in a routine something changes. Could he be teething at all? If I am honest my LO didn't sleep consistently well until he was 9 and half months old. He was breastfed and up until then would still wake for a feed every few hours. He was a very early walker at 8 and half months but when he started walking properly his sleep transformed. It was as if all the walking tired him out. Round about the same time I did put him in his own room in a cot and he took to this very well. Sorry I can't really offer any other advice other than this is probably a phase that he will grow out of x

Thanks @flynn2019 I wonder if it's also that sleep regression. I do feel like a terrible mum as sometimes I feel so annoyed and I also feel terrible for feeling annoyed as he clearly wants to sleep too!

Talked to dh and it might be I just make sure I'm always around for that hour. He has always done this though!

Yep, we had exactly the same! We're in the process of establishing a routine as we can't be playing silly beggars all night when I go back to work next month (he's 10 months).

We are vaguely following Lucy Wolfe's book, The Baby Sleep Solution, which meant getting naps sorted (one 2/3 hours after waking and a longer one after lunch works well for him) and it has helped his night-time sleep a lot. Oh, and establishing an evening routine of bed, bath, story at around the same time every night, which we didn't do before.

My DS no longer wakes after his first sleep cycle and he now stays down for 5-6 hours before waking for a feed/comfort.

Please don't beat yourself up, it hard on all of you.sleep regression is definately a thing. My little one only went through 1 noticeable one at 5 months in which I contacted a sleep trainer but it still took til around the 9 month mark for everything to fall into place. I think they will just fall into a pattern when they are ready. It's so tough but you will get there. As tough as it may sound I wouldn't give in and have you on hand for that hour, I would try and see if you husband can get him to settle. I was so conscious when I was breastfeeding of my little one becoming so attached to me that he wouldn't want any one else to soothe him, but he is actually the opposite. He is very good with my husband and grandparents now that he does an odd overnight with them. Give your self a break and a breather and u will get through it x