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Waiting before conceiving next child

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BiscuitLovers098124 · 17/08/2020 13:32

For various reasons (mostly work related for dh) we have decided to wait until Christmas 2021 until we start conceiving our next child. We could technically start around September 2021 but trying to avoid a summer baby. Although we may start September anyway if I can't hack waiting anymore haha.

My son is already 9 months so would be basically 3 when the new baby came if it happened straight away. Ill be 33.

The problem is I am already so broody 😂 I know people will just say I should enjoy my son now and I do! But I also can't help feeling the way I do. A tiny part of me keeps worrying that it's also too long to wait. Will I be able to conceive? Is it a good age gap?

In the meantime I'm only going back to work very part time. I don't really find my job interesting. I don't have much extra money to put towards doing another course and I'm trying to avoid using extra childcare and nursery because of covid, which is why I'm only returning to work part time and from home.

Maternity leave is good but mostly walking to and from the park, seeing some of our family close by and that's it. No classes or anything!

So I guess my post is asking -

How do you distract yourself from being broody when you have so long to wait? Any tips?

Anything more fun to do with ds and something I can focus on before we look at having another dc? Are there things you wish you'd done? I really want to make the most of my time.

Also does anything else think this is an OK time to wait? If feels like ages to me, but maybe it'll swing by. It's only very recently dh and I decided on this age gap. I had been secretly hoping to start this Christmas!

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BiscuitLovers098124 · 17/08/2020 13:33

ps covid was another reason as we take it quite seriously tbh

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BiscuitLovers098124 · 17/08/2020 13:35

pps doesn't help that it's so hard to see any of our friends and we're not travelling much or going to restaurants because of vulnerable family close by.

This is a semi lighthearted thread BTW. I know there are way worse problems.

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Mumplum1 · 17/08/2020 15:28

I have 2, atm I feel I would love a third, but at the same time I'm unsure because 3 would be crazy and I'm thinking it could be bf hormones making me broody, so if the feeling doesn't pass and if we do decide for definite on number 3, I would also want to wait until my second is older so ttc in over a year, (oh and also when I have convinced my husband that he also wants a third 😅)

But if this helps your wait, I have just under 2 and a half years between mine and it was quite hard at the start as my oldest still needed me so much. Between 2.5 and 3, they change and grow up so much so a 3 year age gap imo would be far easier 🙂

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