All I want is a little bit of help..

[missbecks90]

I feel awful even writing this but do you ever just get fed up off asking parents for help and never getting it?
I get that my two children DD aged 3 & DS aged 7 are mine and are my responsibility but I work two jobs, I have suspected ME & I struggle physically. My dad is retired & my mum works part time 8-12hours a week they both have a lot of free time & I must ask maybe once every couple weeks if they would just pop round to our house, have a cup of tea and I can make them a sandwich just to keep an eye on my children while I get some house work done. My DS isn't to bad he can entertain himself & is happy to do so but my 3 year old DD wants constant attention.
I feel like as fast as I tidy something else or another room is being wrecked, I know probably most mother's/parents go through this but everytime I ask I get an excuse. I'm not talking all day watching them just a few hours I'd get so much done. I guess I'm just fed up and needed somewhere to vent, does anyone else ever feel like this, like your pushing water uphill? 🥺

@GettingUntrapped

They say it takes a village to raise a child, and I can see why as a single parent to two. Unfortunately, the 'your kids, your problem' brigade didn't get that memo. Amazing how people just let parents struggle on to breaking point. Good luck. I hope it gets better soon for you.

Thankyou for offering kind words, it's certainly not easy and of course some people struggle more than others. I was just looking for a vent & a little support but of course I haven't got that. I'm all for supporting others especially other parents, lord knows it's hard enough as it is & some of these comments really upset me yesterday and I did have a little cry because I honestly felt like the worst person in the world. We can only do as best as we can & if I saw anyone in the position of reaching out for help I'd be more than happy to..but hey that's just the person I am! Sending love & you've got this mama! 👏🏼❤️

Yes I do understand how you feel. Hopefully then you’ll get some respite when September comes and school
And nursery starts. Can you afford to buy in some extra help? And maybe try and have a bit of a direct conversation with your parents to ask for a bit more regular help even if just one afternoon per week on a regular basis?

@MostlyAmbridgeandcoffee

Yes I do understand how you feel. Hopefully then you’ll get some respite when September comes and school And nursery starts. Can you afford to buy in some extra help? And maybe try and have a bit of a direct conversation with your parents to ask for a bit more regular help even if just one afternoon per week on a regular basis?

Yes I suppose I could, I haven't actually explained to them that I'm feeling overwhelmed as I didn't want to burden them with it but maybe it's worth it in the long run.

Where are you living? It sounds like you could do with some relief soon from your situation. Many people are feeling like you at the moment. It's so hard. But we will persevere.

Assuming people saying she shouldn't ask for help have never struggled being a parent.. vile. You're entitled to expect a tiny bit of help from the ones who love you the most. You're talking a couple of hours a week, not full time free childcare. Hope you find a solution x

Living in north west England at the moment, with my husband and our two children. My in laws are a couple miles away and my parents are about 19 miles away .

‘I was looking for a cent and a little support but of course I haven’t got that’ how rude, plenty of people spent time writing out replies and you make snarky digs about them? What were you and your husbands plans for childcare and support when you both were planning to conceive? What does your husband plan to do to be more active as a parent? This is for you and your husband to solve between you both, not just you alone. (I don’t want you to answer those questions, they’re just things to ask yourself and your husband)