Co Parerting Advice.

[Helpmexx]

My baby is 8weeks old, her dad left me when I was 4months pregnant, He’s been really unreliable he asked to be at the birth and didn’t show up to her birth he was an hour late, so I gave birth alone even tho I wanted my mum there. I said you can come down any time and visit but it’s got to a point where I’m always begging him to come and see her he is now decided he doesn’t want to see me and only wants to see his daughter by herself she told me that I should go on formula instead of breastfeeding so he can spend more days with her she is now threatening to take me to court to get full custody of her she wants her for 4-5 days a week He refuses to give me money he said he’ll buy her nappies and baby wipes but it’s not just that it’s everything is the extra food for gas the heat The washing powders etc. So now he has her on a Monday for four hours by himself the first week he had her which was last week she came home really sick she had a stomach bug and diarrhoea had to take her to the hospital can I stop him from having her on a Monday am I in the wrong for being worried? And if we go to court will I lose my baby to him? She is exclusively breastfeed. Also how oftern should a dad see a 8 week old?

Thanks xx

First thing open a claim with cms Monday - it won’t be backdated.

Do continue to breastfeed . I would stop unsupervised contact at this point . Little and often is advised in young babies.

Us he seeing her at your house . Say you will give him time to bond but feeding is your domain for now.

Unless you are neglecting your baby he won’t get residency . He is using scare tactics.

Lastly stop pushing him for contact . He doesn’t sound like anyone who cares about your baby

My god, protect your baby from this man at all costs. He sounds deluded and vile. He will not get that much custody don't worry, but the fact your baby got ill shows he hadn't been cleaning anything that goes near her properly. That's neglectfull, you need to put your foot down and say no unsupervised contact right now which you are fully within your rights to do. Your tiny baby is only 2 months old and needs it's mum, especially as you are doing an amazing job at breastfeeding her. Do not stop that for this horrible man either! You shouldn't even consider putting his needs before hers. She's your baby and you protect her whatever the cost, he's doesn't sound capable of looking after a baby and seems to only want to see her to have power over you. Don't push him to have contact as you may think you want your child to have a dad in their life, but if he's an awful dad it's more damaging.
Have you registered the birth yet and is he on the birth certificate?
Sorry to be a brash but you need to have confidence in yourself and take control of the situation x