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Social Services

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HUGS65 · 12/08/2020 09:55

Social Services
I have just been told by my son that he hit his 4 year old don who was refusing to ho to bed. He then dropped the bombshell that social services are involved snd could i have the kids. I am heartbroken my son is in tears and the kids are obvious
Has anyone bee. Involved in anything like this

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Huhokthen · 13/08/2020 10:06

Have social services been in touch with you directly? Where is the children's mother? Is your son getting any help for his anger issues?

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HUGS65 · 13/08/2020 12:19

No i called them because he has had to move out and live with me. Said i would support him and them as i live around tbe corner. Never happened before little boy just refuses to go to bed. She is living with children.breaks my heart seeing him cry

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SnuggyBuggy · 13/08/2020 12:23

Is he willing to try to get help for his anger and work with social services?

Huhokthen · 13/08/2020 12:24

Sorry, i don't understand. You called social services because your son moved out?

Feralkidsatthecampsite · 13/08/2020 12:27

If you are prepared to have special guardianship of your dgs then step in and say so.. Your ds also needs your support. My ds struggles sometimes with his 4yo...
Assisting ss is advised.

porcelinaofthevastoceanss · 13/08/2020 12:27

I think maybe your focus should be on the welfare of your grandchild - upsetting as it may be seeing your son torn up over this, he is an adult. He needs to cooperate with social care (and police, if an injury/mark was sustained on his son) admit his failings as a parent and comply with all directions they give him ie the support they will offer to him and his family in general. Sorry that you’ve had this visited on you - it must be very stressful, but I’m sure it can be rectified if addressed by social care and your son properly.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 13/08/2020 12:35

I dont understand at all.

I work with social services so could be of some help, but im struggling to understand from whats written

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HUGS65 · 13/08/2020 14:03

My biggest fear is that the children will be taken away. There has been nothing like this before

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HUGS65 · 13/08/2020 14:04

He is more than willing to help. He is the calmest person and this has shocked him

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LovingLola · 13/08/2020 14:07

There has been nothing like this before

Who informed SS? The child’s mother?

Huhokthen · 13/08/2020 14:17

@HUGS65

He is more than willing to help. He is the calmest person and this has shocked him
Did he hit his child?
Fizzingsherbert · 13/08/2020 14:19

Your original post doesn't make sense. Who contacted social services?

SnuggyBuggy · 13/08/2020 14:23

What actually happened?

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HUGS65 · 17/08/2020 19:59

His mum told childminder and she told ss. They want to interview the 4 year old. Any idea what they will ask??

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Letsallscreamatthesistene · 17/08/2020 20:04

@hugs65 I think people would appreciate it if you told the story again, theres a lot of confusion

LordOfTheOnionRings · 17/08/2020 20:23

Lol he obviously not 'the calmest person' as he hit a CHILD. You are in denial.

slipperywhensparticus · 17/08/2020 20:59

she is unlikely to lose the children to you if he is living with you

If he is the problem and he is out if the house she should work with them and be ok

He needs anger management

GarlicMcAtackney · 18/08/2020 13:01

Can you write clearly, OP? It would help people reply. The only important thing is that the young child is safe from ever being attacked again.

SpillTheTeaa · 18/08/2020 13:04

Sorry he isn't the calmest person when he hit a child. No amount of anger makes you use violence against a child.

OverTheRainbow88 · 18/08/2020 13:07

So your son hit your grandson and their child minder called social services?

funnyonion1 · 18/08/2020 13:08

Not sure why SS would get involved after one incident unless your son caused very obvious and serious injury to his son - i.e. big bruise, or a cut etc.

There's more to this story OP. Please tell us as there are people here who can give you the best advice.

RGowler81 · 26/03/2021 14:36

Hi
I have just been put into PLO,
i have recently come out of a 21yr DV relationship, i asked social services to help me get out of that relationship, which they did i appreciate this so much( 24th feb 2020) is when my ex left the family home and we was put into cp.
From then on harassment, blackmail, threat continued,i got a non mol against him, he broke it several times, all accounts sent to police, went to CPS, NFA, so he got away with everything he did to myself and the children.
Then in oct 2020 he took the last bit of control and guilt by committing suicide.
During this time i have got involved in a relationship, which is so different from the past one.
I did a claire’s law and sarah’s law on him which came back with some things, he had told me about these, he had since proved the lady is a liar, he stated that he was the victim in the relationship.
Now social services are saying that if i don’t end my relationship with this man then they will remove my children, as they deem him to risky to be with me and around my children
my SW hasn’t even met him,
I’m also not allowed out evenings (when children asleep) or weekends
I just need some help please, no fault of my own and i feel like i’m being punished, for asking for help

thank you Ruth

LIZS · 26/03/2021 14:43

@RGowler81 probably best to start a new thread of your own. If he has a past serious enough to be on a register you need to think very carefully about continuing a relationship. You are vulnerable and unfortunately predatory and abusive men often seek that out. Please put the children first and accept any help ss can offer. Womens Aid can also assist you.

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