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Newborn and toddler twins -struggling

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Bettyboop82 · 09/08/2020 21:56

Just that really... newborn cries most of the time he’s awake and I feel so guilty that my twins have had their little lives turned upside down. I feel guilty that we can’t get out and about now we have the baby, that they are getting shushed constantly so as not to wake the cranky pants baby and that they are getting so much less attention from me. They are dealing with things really well but oh the guilt! Any advice/tips on making life easier with three under 3 Would be much much appreciated! OH goes back to work tomorrow and I’ll be on my own!

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LouiseTrees · 09/08/2020 22:41

Do you have any other help? Grandparents, mummy friends?

Marlena1 · 09/08/2020 22:46

No advice, but just coming out the other end (with two). It was horrific and long but overnight (22 months and 3) it got easier. I'm sorry that's all I have ( I wasn't great). Please don't feel guilty though, you are doing your best in a tough situation. Take all the help you can get.

tattychicken · 09/08/2020 23:09

I had three under 2yrs, not twins but a newborn, one year old and two year old. Plus a 6 year old!
I made the decision to concentrate on the older children, out of necessity more than anything. I thought they needed me more tbh. The baby was in a sling most of the time, was clean and well fed but had very little one on one interaction with me. But I found he was stimulated by his brother and sisters, was bright and alert, and bonded well with me as he was strapped to me most of the time.
I think find a sling that works for you and your baby, strap up, and chase your twins. The baby will be fine.

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Bettyboop82 · 09/08/2020 23:37

@LouiseTrees

Do you have any other help? Grandparents, mummy friends?

Very little due to the Covid situation unfortunately! I had loads of help when the twins were tiny but these days it’s mainly just me unfortunately!!!

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Bettyboop82 · 09/08/2020 23:40

@tattychicken

I had three under 2yrs, not twins but a newborn, one year old and two year old. Plus a 6 year old! I made the decision to concentrate on the older children, out of necessity more than anything. I thought they needed me more tbh. The baby was in a sling most of the time, was clean and well fed but had very little one on one interaction with me. But I found he was stimulated by his brother and sisters, was bright and alert, and bonded well with me as he was strapped to me most of the time. I think find a sling that works for you and your baby, strap up, and chase your twins. The baby will be fine.

Thank you, this is what I’m aiming for. I have a close caboo which I’m trying to get to grips with (local sling library closed due to damn Covid!)

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Bettyboop82 · 09/08/2020 23:43

@Marlena1

Thank you! Glad to hear you’ve made it to the other side!

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compulsivesnacker · 09/08/2020 23:48

Yep, newborn with toddlers is hard. This too shall pass, and all that. At least with one baby you can just lug them around and get on while you occupy and deal with the toddlers. My ndn had a 15mo and then twins. You definitely did it the right way! I got so used to just carrying on that I answered the door feeding once (I was already wandering around sorting out one kid when the doorbell went so I opened it without thinking.) Poor delivery guy.

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