Am I Over reacting?

[mamaof2girls]

So the other day mil came to see the kids with there cousins! Anyway cousins went outside to play mil said to my 20 month old go get shoes on al take you out the front ( I was fine with this) but a wee bit went past and they all came back in going we have been to the park! I was really pissed off that she took my daughter without even asking and just assumed it was fine! No hand sanitizer or anything witch I have been putting on my daughter every time she came away from something when I have took her to the park!

If you were not happy with the cousins being there then you should have said so then. Your MIL should not have take your child out of the garden with telling you. What did you do?

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all.

Tbh if you didn't notice they were gone until they got back I don't see the problem.

I was fine with the cousins being here I stay in a flat so I couldnt see out the front! The fact I also have a 3 month old. My mind was like well if anything had happened or I needed to leave my house quickly for any reason I didn't know where they were i can't see that area I just didn't even say anything I made my oh say something to her!

Also can I also say my 20 month old has never been away from me only for the time that I gave birth to my second and even then I gave birth in 2 hours in the hospital and was home after the 6 hour wait! X

You're overreacting imo.

Was your MIL with them? I’m not sure I really see the problem. Presumably you feel your daughter is safe with them otherwise you wouldn’t have let her go out the front or would have checked up on her?

I would have just washed her hands when she got back.

You’re overreacting. I would think lots of hand sanitizer on a toddler was a higher risk.

Overreacting a bit - she should have really asked you but as long as hands were washed thoroughly when they got back I can't see a problem. Maybe she thought she was doing you a favour giving you a bit of a break.

No one should take your children anywhere without asking you/ letting you know where they are.
YANBU and I would be annoyed.

I think you're overreacting a bit. I'd be a bit miffed that she hadn't let you know but other than that, she was helping you out.

I also think it's a bit irrelevant that your toddler has hardly been away from you because I assume they had a good time?

Just out of curiosity, what did MIL say when your DH spoke to her?

I don't have a problem with she took her the park I have the problem she didn't come ask if it was okay or let me know they were going! I just don't like that sometimes they let the older kids put her on their knee to go down slides etc after watching a video off a little boy breaking his leg that way it's always been a fear off mine!

You need to talk your MIL about it. Say I’m glad DD1 had a lovely time at the park next time please let me know if you are taking her somewhere.

Just say 'please can you let me know if you're going somewhere other than where you said you'd go next time'.

Done.

You seem very anxious about your daughter. I would suggest you try spending some time away from her so she learns to trust and be comfortable with other adults and you can adjust to this too.
There's really nothing wrong with a grandma saying let's go to the park. I'd love grandma to come over and take the kids for a fun trip so I can get some jobs done or have some me time. She probably thought she was doing you a favour.
If you were unhappy with it you could simply and politely say I'd rather DD didn't go the park next time.
Just being annoyed about such a non issue is unreasonable.

Usually I think baby first but this is a bit of an overreaction. If your DD knows the MIL, and you trust her to take care, I'd be a bit cross for them not letting me know they went, but not for the trip itself.

Kids need to explore. Agree hand sanitizer is much higher risk on a 2yo than not using it and just washing hands when they get home. As for breaking a leg on a slide - what can I say. That sounds like a bit of helicopter parenting to me, sorry.