My son and I went into refuge when he was a baby. My ex has severe mental health issues.
We went to family courts and my son had unsupervised contact. He would come home and call me names such as fat, slag, ugly, whore and state his dad told him I ran away from them and my son will call meba liar because dad said. This still happens now. He disclosed physical abuse when having contact which was safeguarded but he still has indirect phone calls with dad. Dad has undermined my relationship via phone calls and again called me names etc which has been raised.
Fast forward to present day and my son is very violent towards me. He gets in my face, punches me. He said he has a voice in his head that tells him to get a knife and kill me. We went away for a few days this week and he said he wanted to throw me off a balcony and kill me. He threw a drink over me on holiday and punched me in the arm so hard it bruised badly.
We use time out as punishment and loss of TV time etc as well as reflection.
He will get angry and break things, smash things up. He's also tried throwing himself out of his window.
He shows very little empathy and will do things such as break his brothers toys because the voice told him to or go in the kitchen and empty food on floors for no apparent reason.
He wil come into my room at night and wake me up because I'm in his words "lazy and a liar". Sometimes he will wake me up 6 times plus. He tells me if I don't do as he says he will wake his brother up or hit me.
He's under school nurse for incontinence which is new and also healthy minds.
My 2 year old started mimicking his violence towards me now like his 6 year old brother. I feel anxious that he will start constantly on eggshells with him. Nothing is working...
Healhy minds think possibly an Attachment disorder but I'm concerned and at the end of my tether ðŸ˜ðŸ˜