Find it hard to do the 'yummy mummy' bit at preschool gate...

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Feeling sad as my 3.7 yr old DS1 came home from pre school today and said that he was sad as he hadn't been given a card from a particular friend asking him to her birthday party.
As ever its hard to work out the truth of the matter as when he says everyone else got one I know it isn't true!!
I didn't expect to have to deal with this sort of thing so early. And I wonder if it is partly my fault as I don't tend to fit in so well at the pre school gate although I have made an effort to try to speak to the mums of other kids in his class. It just seems that most of them have older children and so are already 'set up' with friends.
Anyway it just tore at my heart strings when he said' Mummy can I ask everyone to my party?'

This is par for the course, not everyone will be invited all the time and yes it breaks your heart and there is no easy way to say you're not invited (and it gets worse as they get older as they realise more who goes and who doesn't) BUT try to manipulate some friendships and invite someone home for tea once in a while (with the mum of course) and friendships will form naturally.

Please don't take these things to heart, I limited my DD to 7 freinds for this party and she chose probably who he best pals were for that week, or who she played with at playtime. If they are limiting numbers they might just invite the kids of people they know, kids their child has mentioned or some other random method.

When DS started a new school he found it hard so we invited the whole class to his party to give him a chance but likited for future parties after that. It gets easier now its just him and a couple of pals to the cinema.