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3 year old CANNOT stay awake!!!!

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PandaEyed13 · 05/08/2020 18:44

I'm at my wits end, I'm in tears here!

My 3 and a half year old boy cannot stay awake during the day! Not at home, not at school, nada!

He sleeps from 8am to 8pm, but from 2pm in the afternoon onwards I have to go to extraordinary relentless lengths to keep him awake. My boy is one of those kids who - if he sleeps for even 10 minutes in the day all bets are off. No bedtime until the wee small hours, he's up all night messing around, won't settle, keeps getting out of bed, shouts and screams to come back down. Even if that 10 minute sleep occurs at 11am, you would think it's early enough in the day that he'd still sleep that night right? Nope.

Basically I can't cope with this anymore. All day, every single day - all I do is try to keep him awake. Chocolate milk, trips to the park, tickle games, incentives to stay up, nothing works. The only thing that does work is a bath, he can't physically fall asleep in the water and it rejuvenates him, but he can't sit in a bath from 2pm til bedtime. Once that tactic has been used, that's it, there's no more "stay awake" weapons in my arsenal! And it's all on me, hubby goes to work at 1pm and doesn't come back til 9pm. I think it quite suits him though because he can't deal with doing all this either at the weekends!

It sounds so stupid to be so frustrated about it but I'm sick and tired. I hate staying up all night with him because he slept a minute or 2 in the daytime and I can't deal with spending the whole day keeping him up anymore, especially when he persistently bawls to go to sleep the whole day long. I loathe this, I can't stress it enough. It's the bane of my life. Scratch that actually, because I have no life, because this is all I do with it! I'm fed up. I'd love to do ANYTHING else in my day!

It can't be normal? No other child in his class has this issue. His older brother never had this at 3 years old. His 2 year old cousin doesn't sleep in the day anymore and doesn't try to. And please don't come at me with "you shouldn't compare kids," we all do it when we think something is different with our kids!

I've debated taking him to a doctor in all seriousness but wouldn't know what to say! "My child won't stay awake during the day!" I'm fairly certain we'll be shown the door!

The internet is useless. Tonnes of advice on how to get them to sleep but literally zero on kids who can't stay awake or how to get them to stay awake. No books, tips, advice, similar stories, nothing.

Anyone had anything similar, any tips or tricks on how to keep him up? Tablets or TV makes him worse, he gets even dozier in front of them. I'll take anything, even if it's only 1 person who has nothing more to say than "this was me too!" because I'm at the end of my patience now.

Thanks for reading. XxXx

OP posts:
auntieElle · 05/08/2020 18:46

Phone your GP and say exactly that: "My child won't stay awake during the day!"

MrsA2015 · 05/08/2020 18:48

Try an earlier bedtime?

Pantheon · 05/08/2020 19:00

I'd get him checked over at the gp. It would at least rule out any medical reason, say low iron or something.

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raspberryk · 05/08/2020 19:36

Considering my ds had 12 hours sleep overnight and 2 or 3 hours nap in the day and my dd had 13 plus overnight I'd say your child isn't getting enough sleep.
Put to bed at 6 or 7, or allow a nap. Overtiredness can cause sleep disturbance as much as too much sleep.

FizzingWhizzbee123 · 05/08/2020 19:38

Sorry if I’m missing something, but could it just be as simple as he needs a nap? Some kids do still need to nap at 3, even if their siblings and friends don’t. It might be inconvenient but that would be the first thing I would try. I used to look after a little girl who took a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day at 4 years old and still slept 7pm-7am! Some kids really do just need more sleep. Is there any reason why he can’t nap?

FizzingWhizzbee123 · 05/08/2020 19:40

Ok, just re-read and I see nap = late bedtime. Is it possible that the late bedtime could be due to overtiredness hyperactivity instead of the nap? I would try a nap for a bit and just see. Or as above, move his bedtime much earlier. If my almost 3 yr old misses his nap, he’s in bed by 6/6.30pm.

Cuddling57 · 05/08/2020 19:45

I can sympathise. My DS didn't sleep through the night for two years. It was awful. He didn't sleep in the day either - I just had no relief whatsoever.

Is he sleeping during the day because he is knackered from not sleeping at night do you think?

LadyPenelope68 · 05/08/2020 19:47

Oth my children were in bed by about 6.30 at that age, 8pm is quite late bedtime for a 3 year old. Just try putting him to bed earlier.

Neolara · 05/08/2020 19:49

I agree with putting him to bed at 6 / 6.30pm..

pinkpantsrock · 05/08/2020 19:51

both my boys (7&4)are the same, even a moment of eye closing and they are up ALL NIGHT...

6-12 months they would have 3naps, morning, lunch and afternoon. Then bed 6/7, then i dropped afternoon nap,otherwise AWAKE, then lunch and then morning.

By age 3 all naps had been dropped and i moved bedtime from anywhere from 5:30-7, depending on how they where doing cranky keeping awake. They still did 12hrs solid.

This resulted in some early starts (5:30), but i could risk a morning nap as would have rest of day to wear them out.

victoriasponge678 · 05/08/2020 20:49

2 of my kids napped until 4 they needed a go 2 hrs at that age. They slept better once they had napped

BlueBoar · 05/08/2020 20:57

My DS went to bed at 600 latest all through preschool and reception. He slept 13 hours a night. He is 10 now and still sleeps at least 10-11 hours and frequently more. My GP was the one who told me to get him to bed earlier and I had to ask to leave work an hour early (30
min commute to childminder, 30 min commute home that he would frequently fall asleep on and then be up until 11pm, frantically overtired). I had only an hour at home in the evening and even less in the morning with him as a result but it worked.

Caterina99 · 06/08/2020 20:08

I think you have 2 options - put him to bed way earlier or let him take a decent nap and accept he’ll be up late but at least he’ll be bearable.

Hopefully it’s just a phase, but yes if my kids nap then they won’t go to bed til late. But I have to be pretty strict about bedtime otherwise they get overtired and then want to nap the next day and the cycle just gets worse.

EchidnasPhone · 06/08/2020 20:31

Earlier to bed for sure! Also watch that he’s not having carb full meals and snacks. Dinner at 5 and bed for 6. That’s 2 hours extra and should save him needing a nap. x

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