Am I wrong... travelling abroad & my child

[MummytoaprincessXo]

Hi,

Please don’t give me too much hate and I don’t mean any offence to anyone who has decided to travel abroad as it’s your own choice!

In a few weeks my in laws will be travelling abroad for a week. They are going to a country that is ‘green’ (so no isolation needed when they come home). However, they think that when they come back they will be seeing my child straight away. My child has a complicated birth and luckily hasn’t got any underlying health issues except from being prone to bronchiolitis. Now, personally, I do not want my child going round until they have completed an isolation period of 2 weeks. I have not taken my child anywhere except from the pharmacy & to get immunisations & walks everyday. Her grandparents have seen her from a distance (they’re frontline workers).

My partner doesn’t see a problem but if anything was to happen I wouldn’t forgive myself. We’ve done so well with staying away from all of this coronavirus stuff and I don’t want that to change (although things are going back to normal).

Am I wrong? I don’t want to look like the bad guy... so I need my partner on board and to feel confident that I’m doing the right thing for my child. Although airports are ‘safe’ with the testing they are doing, it doesn’t stop me from worrying!

So....if the government is saying things are safe not too isolate, and you're saying otherwise...whats your cut off? Will you be forever isolating? When do you deem it to be safe? Whats your criteria?

I totally get this. Your overwhelming instinct is to protect your child. But that instinct is not always right or rational. I would find a compromise. Distanced meeting outdoors?

Her grandparents have seen her from a distance
Are these the same grandparents that are going on holiday? If yes then I don’t see the issue considering they’re not going anywhere high risk and they would only see your child social distanced anyway. Even if those are your parents, not the in laws then I’d do the same and stick to socially distanced meet-ups, ideally outside.

If they are flying, they will be going through the airport with people from all over the World.

OP @MummytoaprincessXo I agree with you. They can surely wait 2 weeks to see her. I would not give in.

I am also happy for people to travel, I would not necessarily unless a good reason, but I go out to parks, meet people in gardens, have as much "normal" life as possible but IMO the airport is the risk, not the holiday they are going to.

Yes, I think it's absolutely fine to ask them to wait 2 weeks. It's not even about your baby, it's also about you. Would you and your partner be able to manage caring for a baby if you were both ill, or one of you had to be in hospital? Could your partner afford the time off work?

We have a close family member who we haven't seen since before lockdown. We were hoping to see him next week as he would be travelling through our area (otherwise lives 5 hours from us). But he's just come back from France, where he was for a week doing a sport training with a large group of others (none of it socially distanced). Air travel and a week training and living with a large group of others who all recently flew in for the event, we've said, no sorry. He understands and we'll make plans to meet up in a few months when he next has some time off.