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Getting rid of baby things and later deciding to TTC?

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ticktockticktocktick · 03/08/2020 18:05

Recently passed on all of my baby clothes to various friends and family members. It felt a little emotional, but also cathartic to clear everything out of house.
We have one DD age 4. I'm a carrier for a genetic condition that causes foetal brain deformity, so we decided with a heavy heart not to TTC again (1 in 4 chance of occurrence and we've already had 2 affected pregnancies).
Now i'm having a major wobble and thinking we could TTC again, either do pre-implantation testing or just try natural conception and take our chances.
Not sure if this wobble is caused by seeing all the little baby clothes??
I'm 38 and if we're going to TTC we would probably just give it 4-5 months and then accept it's not to be if no luck. I guess the baby clothes are kind of irrelevant, because we could always buy more, or might need more anyway if baby is a different sex. I thought getting rid of baby stuff would provide some closure, but instead it seems to have had the opposite affect, making me really confused. Any one have similar experience and what did you do ? If you decided not to TTC, how did you move forward and how long did it take the feelings of regret/"what if?" to pass?

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Caspianberg · 04/08/2020 08:56

I am just on baby no.1, so not at that point yet. However, it sounds like any future baby if it did happen would be a welcome joy to you, so things like clothes and other baby stuff having to re-buy would be positive, not negative surely.

And regardless, if they haven't been used for 4 years, surely its better to know they are being used again now by another baby rather than just sitting in storage.

I am putting by some bits as ours outgrows like small favorites, but general basics will just give away and re get in future if we have a second. We may be sticking with 1 as well.

ticktockticktocktick · 04/08/2020 13:03

Thanks for your reply.
Yes the people I gave the clothes to were very grateful so glad they are getting use. I think it was just difficult as I had soooo much stuff- from newborn to 4 years old. I was passed on lots of new stuff from friends so I had lots, and had also brought it with us when we moved house. Lots of it was branded and in nice condition, so hopefully it will get good wear.
I think your approach to pass stuff on as your baby grows out of it, is a great idea, so to not accumulate too much.

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