Drinking with a newborn?

[newmum1212]

DD is 3 weeks old and FF. All through my pregnancy I always said "Oh, I can't wait to have a glass of wine!" but now I'm not pregnant and looking after her I feel like I shouldn't drink around her at all. Friends keep saying they did it with their babies and it's fine but I can't help but feel kind of guilty and wrong about it and I don't know why? It's not like I'm going to get drunk and my husband is home with us all of the time as well... Anyone else feel like this?

Just have a drink and relax, if you want want. She'll be fine. Tbf, with both of mine I'm not sure I had the energy to drink yet after only 3 weeks. I barely knew what day it is. But yes, my 6 weeks, I was out in the pub with a bf baby in one hand and a glass of wine in the other. As you say, you aren't going to get drunk. You are a responsible adult with another responsible adult also there parenting with you. It won't be the same - you probably won't want to have 3 drinks yet at this point because you'll want to fall asleep - but it's perfectly okay.

You should do healthy drink which is need for body to grow and fit.

@Enterce

Having a drink is fine OP, getting drunk not so much, so have a glass of wine if you want one, but don't follow my lead and drink the entire bottle!

@Enterce

You should do healthy drink which is need for body to grow and fit.

We’re in Germany so the drinking culture might be a bit different, but we regularly take our baby out for a walk in the park on a Sunday with a nice cold beer in hand! I don’t see any issue with this - we’re not talking about getting wasted!

Formula feeding you have more flexibility ;) One glass of wine is perfectly fine!

Personally I would avoid it becoming a constant thing. Taking care of a newborn, broken sleep, plus very regular alcohol don't mix in my opinion.

I had a glass of Prosecco after 3 weeks and felt tipsy haha but, yeah as long as you don't go overboard

Probably the odd small glass from about 4 weeks - had to have it early in the evening though, nothing less enjoyable than doing a night feed with that "urgh I've had a drink" feeling. Once she started to go to bed early and stay largely asleep it got a bit easier to enjoy sharing a bottle of wine in front of the TV.

Having a drink is fine but getting drunk isn’t in my opinion. I had a glass or 2 of wine max in the newborn stage .

I didn’t have a drink until baby was around 4 months old, but I had lost a LOT of blood during delivery so probably would have passed out if I had 😆

Now, I will have a small wine when baby is in bed occasionally. I have a rule that nobody holds the baby when they’ve had a drink - I wouldn’t have a large glass of wine and get in my car, so why would I do it when I’m caring for my baby?

However, it is very personal. Do whatever you feel comfortable with and, as long as you’re being safe, don’t let anyone else make you feel bad for it!

I had this exact dilemma!!! Personally I didn’t until mine were about two months old and a little bit sturdier. I might have had a sip or two just to remember the feeling of happiness, but left it a bit for a glass.

Good luck xx

I don't see an issue with having a drink and newborn personally.

I breastfeed my 3 month old and will happily have a drink as well. Totally went teetotal when pregnant, but I looked it up and I would have to be x3 over the drink driving limit for baby to even start getting anything.

Seeing as my 'drinking' is a small beer with indian meal, a glass of wine with meal out, a glass of champagne at a celebration etc, then I see no issue if I have one occasionally. I am fully capable of looking after baby after a small glass of prosecco.

I had a couple of beers or glasses of wine over a long period i.e. 3-4 hours, no spirits or anything stronger. I didn't see the harm - I know my limits, I would never get drunk while caring for my baby but 1 or 2 is fine for me.

I wouldn’t. Newborns are rubbish at the pub. Never get a round in

I would argue that it's more beneficial for your child to see that it's possible to drink beer or wine in moderation, without it needing to be a special occasion.

I really cut down on my drinking after having my eldest. I was used to not drinking during pregnancy and then I felt that wretched with anemia, sleep deprevation and PND I just didn't want to drink. Then I was on antidepressants and it was recommended not to drink on them. Plus I was also trying to lose the baby weight. Then I was working, pregnant again and I just fell into a habit of not really drinking.