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Behavioural problems or a phase?

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Kks19 · 02/08/2020 18:48

Hey everyone! I really need some advice! I'm honestly at the end of my tether and I'm constantly upset about this situation. My Dd 2 is really badly behaved. She would hit me constantly, never does anything I ask her to do, she will have really bad tantrums, scream and shout etc. The main thing that is upsetting me so much and making me feel like a complete failure, is that she will always call for her daddy and never me. I do absolutely everything for her but she still calls for daddy. Won't let me change her nappy, get her dressed etc. She will hit me constantly for absolutely no reason at all. Earlier, I was watching TV, and she just walked up to me and slapped me repeatedly. I honestly just broke down and had a feeling sorry for myself moment 🙃 my partner will sometimes say 'go to mummy' etc but thats about it. I feel that he's secretly enjoying the daddy daughter moment. My parents have made their opinion clear, that she is spoilt and may have a behavioural problem. I'm just hoping that it is a phase that she's going through. Has anybody gone through this with their little one?
I might add also, that it is a good cop bad cop scenario between myself and my partner. I would tend to tell dd off when she's misbehaving. Partner doesn't.
Sorry for the long post, just need some advice from my fellow mn's!! Xxx

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FelicityPike · 02/08/2020 18:54

How did you both punish her for slapping you and making you cry?
She should be sat out and firmly told “no, you don’t hit!” Then made to apologise, a cuddle is enough at this age, with a repeat of “hitting hurts, we don’t hit”.
Wanting daddy all the time is a phase, and it hurts like hell, I know!

DeeplyMovingExperience · 02/08/2020 19:07

We had very few rules with the kids. One of them was no hitting, and it was totally non negotiable. I hope you manage to nip this in the bud.

Lockdownseperation · 02/08/2020 19:35

Hitting is completely normal in a two year old. I recommend the book how to talk so little kids listen. Kids go through phases of being of having a preferred adults. Often when it’s not the primary carer it’s because they are secure in their attachment and they know you will be there for them.

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Kks19 · 07/08/2020 17:19

Thanks everyone for replying! :)
I do try to tell her that its not OK to hit. She would just laugh as if nothing has happened. I really hope this is just a phase and not the start of a behavioural problem. She will favour dh which does really upset me.

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Kks19 · 07/08/2020 17:20

@Lockdownseperation I definitely will check that book out. Anything to help! Thank you xx

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