Would you contact Social Services.......??

[Lolabelle]

Someone i know beats their DS a lot, i've seen it once when he annoyed her and our mutual friend has confided it has happenede a fair bit when she has been around and its upsetting to hear. Its because she has postnatal apparantly and he is a very difficult child but still only 2.10 and the same age as mine and i'm not sure i can just ignore it. I've asked my mutual friend to clarify just how hard she is hitting him and she showed me using my sofa and it horrified me as i didn't experience it to that degree and apparantly its repetitive and she gets furthermore annoyed as he doesn't seem to cry which anoys her as she doesn't get a reaction. The whole situation upsets me even thinking about it but what do i do. Shes not actually my friend and the mutual friend doesn't want to get involved...

No - don't worry, I reckon I would have done the same. It's easy to believe the justifications, but you're doing the right thing.

She does seem to be getting worse with this pnd, she stays in all day and is really down and her ds drives her mad and he is allegedly very violent also to her baby but i guess he knows no different. I asked her out for coffee once but it was all too odd and i had my hands full with my newborn and like you said, i'm not trained to deal with it...

well done - not easy I'm sure, but definately the right course of action.

been in a queue on the nspcc helpine for ages, i will keep trying but in case i get no joy does anyone know how i can find the social services no. for my area??

To be honest with you I would ring the police before i rang the social. I'm afraid the social are notoriously slow for reacting to anything. (I work in this area) This little lad could end up with serious internal injuries by the sound of things. The police would hopefully do something about it now.

don't think the police can do anything unless they see injuries or witness violence. might not be right but remember a police man friend of mine saying something like that...

The police will be able to put you in touch with the appropriate parties. Ring your local police and explain the situation - they can decide what to do. Like people have said, this woman needs help, but most importantly the little boy is in danger here. You woudlnt forgive yourself if you left this, you dont have a choice.

Can i just clarify something though, have you actually seen this take place or are you only hearing it from a friend?

call them./ you stay anon anyway. hes only 2 ffs, how horribly sad