Ending cosleeping

[Brieminewine]

Hi, it's getting to the point when we need to stop cosleeping with our 13MO, any tips for making the transition? She does go for naps in her cot in the day time and on a night, but once she wakes she won't go back down in there (falls asleep in my arms but when I try put her back down she wakes up crying) any tips/advice? Thanks

I waited until my terrible sleeper was 18 months and put her straight into a proper bed.

She never spent a single night in her expensive, side sleeper cot 🙄.

I used the Baby Whisperer approach of going in and out ( dozens and dozens of times) for the first few nights until things improved.

She's 20 now - we survived (although it sometimes felt as if we would never get through it!)

Yeah that was my plan too but DH is getting a bit sick of flying heel kicks in the middle of the night 😂

No clue. We have 2 and 3 year olds in our bed.

I don't mind though they are only little once 

Can you put a double mattress on the floor of her room and sleep with her in there, then slowly move yourself out? I am just doing similar to that with my 2.5 year old now. I feed her to sleep, cuddle in for a bit and then sneak through to my husband's room.

I used a double mattress on the floor with my LO and then slowly phased myself out. It worked quite well.

Well I'll probably get a shouting for this but in my experience they never go in their own bed! DS is 6 and just won't go in! I ebf and read Three in a Bed and it was lovely for ages but DM was anti anything like that and I had hell over it, plus from DH's side. I loved co-sleeping and ignored them all! DS was always safe and it made bf so much easier. But the down side is he won't go in his own room now and I have had to lie to family to get them off my back!
So it's a warning to anyone co-sleeping be prepared for the long haul!

I waited until 2 1/2, then moved DS to a toddler bed in my room. It was a relatively easy transition, he cried for about five minutes for the first few nights then just went to sleep and slept through. I think, like everything, it's easier when they are ready but I understand that not everything can wait.

Good advice thanks, I’m going to try wait til she’s a little older and we can move her to a toddler bed then I can lie with her and then slide away

We co slept with DD until she was 13 months old. We tried the cot in our room and I would hold her hand until she fell asleep. But then every time she woke up, she needed me there to get her back to sleep. She was waking for hours and several times a night.
Then, we moved her cot to her room, stuck to a bedtime routine. One night, we put her into her cot, left her for 5 minutes and lay her back down. We repeated this every 5 minutes. It didn’t take her long to settle herself, and now she prefers to lay in her cot and go to sleep by herself (she has a dummy and soothing music to fall asleep too).

I thought about waiting until I could lay in a toddler bed with her, but this method worked really well for us. Good luck.

We spend forever just sitting by DS cot in a dimmed room with a little hand hold for a while. I can't do controlled crying of any description. We would take it in turns to sit with him. Quietly leaving the room once he was asleep. Try doing this when you have a holiday as it would need repeating through the night. Or a large bean bag!