A way to discipline dd if she starts misbehaving during play dates

[Givemeabreakpls]

Can I ask for some advice as to discipline when at friend’s houses or when friends come to us? My 6yo dd has started to get very disruptive during these situations (Not every time, but I’m starting to worry whenever we make plans with others) and I find myself warning my friends that we may have to leave early, which I feel sets the wrong tone for the visit for everyone. It’s even worse if people come to our house, I get so nervous. Should I warn, then simply follow through and take her home? Or, if a visit to our house, take her friends home? (No doubt to astonished parents!) I absolutely hate being the parent who has to up and leave, or have to explain why we may need to - I often then spend the next ten minutes having to chat about her behaviour and what they think might be wrong with her or what I’m doing wrong. I don’t want them to see her as a potential problem all the time and I don’t want her thinking she has to come with a health warning! Is there a better/ more productive way to deal with this?

When you go to friends just say "oh lovely, but we can only come for an hour or two as we have plans after/waiting for the food shop/have an appointment/someone is coming over etc".

When at your house make it clear in the invite , like "you can pick x up at 12 / I'll drop her off at 12".

Tbh there is no need to warn friends or draw attention to your DD's behaviour or why you're doing it.

DD is still quite young to self regulate no matter how much you talk about it, especially if she's in the swing of things or already too far gone. So make sure you keep an eye on her for signs (especially non verbal, facial expressions, posture, etc) she's becoming overwhelmed, offer little breaks under the guise of a cuddle, helping you with something etc. Ask her discreetly if she needs a few minutes to herself and make sure she can get it without drawing attention to her behaviour.