Will it get better?

[Atticus500]

Posting after a very long and restless night and in need of reassurance. DD is 8 weeks and I keep reading that things get better at 12 weeks. Specifically, all of my “worries” (gassiness, spit up, fussiness, crying, cluster feeding, groaning in the night, burping etc) improve at this age. Does it get better at 12 weeks? I’m bracing myself for it to come and pass with no change so could do with hearing some positive experiences!

I can’t say for certain but it’s true to say that all the problems pass and looking back pass quite quickly. You seem to move into different phases/stages. Ds1 was certainly passed all that by 12 weeks. Ds3 was particularly gassy and it really bothered him and he couldn’t settle etc. I can’t pinpoint exactly the time but I seem to remember being told it would pass about 12weeks and I think it did. It certainly didn’t go on for much longer than that. It’s exhausting but it will pass. Try to get as much rest as you can and enjoy the good bits.

I could have written this post when DS was 8 weeks old; I found it really did get better at about 12 weeks. We were more in a routine, DS was sleeping for longer stretches of time and everything felt a bit more normal. There are always new worries and changes of course but I felt like I had more of a handle on them by then.

Oh god the relentlessness of the winding and fussiness and grunting. I used to cry with sheer exhaustion on a regular basis.
It definitely gets better!!! Maybe not bang on 12 weeks but over the next few weeks. Hang in there!!!

Heyy, it definitely definitely gets better!! I have a toddler and at Christmas 2018 he was 8 weeks old, I was so worn out and the most sleep deprived I’ve ever been.

After seeing a friend at New Years whose baby is only a month older than mine, she told me her baby was sleeping 8 hours straight. I then got researching online about sleep routines and by 12 weeks he was sleeping so much better, through a mixture of the routine but also him getting older.

Have you read about the 4th trimester? These first 3 months are incredibly tough but when you read about the 4th trimester it kind of makes sense. Also do you have the wonder weeks app?

@OP I feel you - I'm almost at week 6 and had a seriously tearful chat with DP last night about how I'm struggling. On top of the gassiness, we have constant liquid poo so as she's always lying in shit, her bum is getting really sore.

Everyone says to me about the magic week 12 too but I'm not holding breath incase it doesn't happen. It's hard to enjoy moments when feeling so tired all the time - I get incredibly grumpy.

How long is a piece of string?

Dd1 slept through from 6 months
Dd2 was three years old
Dd3 3 and a half

I remember this being the worst but. I think when they get more ability to hold their heads up and sit propped up they get more comfortable and less fussy.

Hi
My little boy got noticeably better with these things by the time he was 14 weeks old which tied in with me starting him on daily optibac probiotic powders, he still has episodes of tummy problems now at 5.5 months but nowhere near as bad xx

For me not bang on 12 weeks, but I remember when he turned four months realising that everything was much better, and had been for a couple of weeks or so. Hang in there!

DS is now 12 weeks and is definitely crying less - crying is now about 30-45 mins a day. He also seems more comfortable after feeds so I feel like his digestive system has matured a bit. He’s also more happy to entertain himself for longer periods of time in his bouncy chair or playmat. Because of all that I’d say things are definitely easier than they were a couple of weeks ago!

Somewhere between 3 and 4 months things definitely started to improve, but it's not like someone flicks a switch - be prepared for things to change more gradually.

For me the incremental improvements came at 8 weeks, 4 months, 6 months and 9 months, but it'll be different for everyone.

I remember about 9 or 10 weeks things improved a lot. A magic switch does not get pressed at 12 weeks!! But you do begin to notice a gradual change, or realise that things are not as bad as a few weeks ago. That said, even a few weeks feels like a lifetime when you are in the middle of it. Just do what you need to do to get through day by day. It WILL get better

Identify friends who have babies about 4-6 weeks older than yours. I had a really useful group who reassured me that whatever irritating/befuddling/revolting thing my baby was doing was quite normal and theirs had done exactly the same, but now stopped!

My wee one is 11 weeks and things have massively improved for us over the last week. She's able to be awake for a bit longer now, which makes constantly trying to get her to nap less relentless. She'll lie on her playmat chilling out for a while on her own for 20 mins or so, or just sit happily on our laps coo-ing and chatting.

At 6 weeks I had a crying, sad little baby who seemed in constant pain from gas. It was so hard, and I couldn't see a happy ending in sight. It will get better, hang in there OP!

Oops that said 6 weeks rather than 8 weeks. She was a sad little thing at 8 weeks too!