Sorry for the long read, but I could really do with some advice.
I've got major anxiety around my mother in law taking the baby out for a walk. She has done it once so far, when they got back she'd put way too many layers on him and it was obvious he'd been crying a lot, if not the whole time they were out. He works himself up so much if you don't calm him down, we don't pander to him, but letting him cry it out doesn't work. He just gets worse and worse and I spent the rest of the afternoon/evening trying to calm him down and he as so overtired because he never had an afternoon nap!
I had told her before they went out that he doesn't need many layers as he is always quite warm, takes after his dad. But she was concerned because it was windy, but he was roasting hot when I picked him up! I told my partner and he just said 'she's old school' like thats an excuse...
I want to let her take him out again because, mentally, I could really do with just a couple of hours to myself, its been so intense recently. But honestly I think I would just spend the whole time worrying about what state he will be in when they get back!
Shes said to me before, "grandparents don't mind the crying because we can hand them back"
Am I being silly? We get on, but my partner is quite a bit older so his parents in turn are too, both in their 70s. We definitely aren't close and I don't feel I can tell her anything without being judged as the namby pamby millennial generation... I'm not overly paraboid as a mother but my partner keeps saying she wants to take him and why don't I let her help more. For my sanity I do need a rest but I'm so anxious.
On top of this, we are renovating our flat and really need to move out for a bit and the obvious thing would be to their house but I can't even bear the thought of that, I'm struggling in my own home with my emotions, let alone trying to do so somewhere I'm so anxious and uncomfortable.
Please, any advice is desperately welcome!!!