Dds need their tablets for school work. Their behaviour has been awful lately and my usual response is to take their tablets off them. We have house rules for being allowed screen time for fun but they don't stick to them and with needing them for school it makes it difficult.
I've just read on another thread that it shouldn't be necessary to hide devices and that the dc should respect that they can't have them. Mine will just take them and be on them when I'm doing my own work or asleep at night and not aware. They play minecraft and love Nicky or dd2 mainly reads and obsesses about pet care.
No amount of talking to them about what is acceptable in terms of behaviour has any effect. When at school their behaviour is exemplary but at home they are often horrendous with shouting, screaming, hitting, temper tantrums yet they are 11 and 13. They are awaiting counselling for issues to do with their abusive dad who they don't see. They have always been spirited and wilful.
Their behaviour is affecting their younger brother who is copying the tantrums and hitting and is very defiant.
Dd1 has had her phone taken off her for good until I can get her a very basic one because she can't abide by the rules attached to having one such as it gets left with me overnight and no walking around the streets gazing at the screen or using it for the internet. She'll say she doesn't know where it is, I can't find it, and then she's texting people at 3am and getting cross when they don't reply. No amount of talking to her about this has any effect. She has lost friends due to her aggressive messaging but still doesn't stop.
I'm out of ideas.