Getting your DSD to respect you

[Jane296]

Me and my DH have been married for 8 years and together for 11
He has 3 daugters and i love them all but ever since his oldest hsd been able to talk see hasnt shown respect twords me
I can accept the the fact that she dosnt call me mum regardless of how long we've known each other
She loves and gets along with her sister that me and my DH have had so itd very obvious she singles me out with her negative and hurtful comments
My DH has tried to get her to at least show me respect but she hasnt listen its been going on for years and just at my wits end
What can I do

She isnt going to call you mum, Because you aren't her mum

Where is her mum?
How old is she?

This is a parenting problem. Who does discipline and why have they let her be rude to you for a decade!?

Unless there's a good reason why she's specifically disrespectful to you (e.g. you single her out in the same way) your DH needs to up his game. It's not a battle you can fight.

You aren't an emotional punchbag and you must be defended and protected. If your DC grow up seeing you being disrespected, it will cause all sorts of issues and further hurt.

Sorry you're going through this.

Depending on how old she is, I would possibly call her out on her behaviour and tell her how sad and upset it makes you. Show her thst you're human and thst you're hurting. She needs to learn empathy.