Im a single parent my dd is 7, its been me and her from day 1, bf freaked and left me. Hasnt had anything to do with her at all, never seen her, never heard from him etc etc.
Anyway, she has recently been (understandably) curious, seeing other people with dads has prompted questions.
Currently she knows:
- Everyone has a mum and dad but not everyone has them both in their lives
- Her "dad" is just the person who made her, but to be a "dad" you need to be there, care for them, raise them.
- He was my bf but only mummy chose to raise her
So last night she asked his name, and if i have his number and i said i dont, (as i believe i have an old one for him) She also said do i have a picture, i said im not sure i need to check. But she left it as that and was fine.
I do have a pic, i kept them for exactly this reason but imagined she'd be much older when asked me.
My thoughts are - maybe shes too young for a pic, as this might make it far too real that he is a real person out in the world and i obv dont want her obsessing espesh at this age. Im not at all naive, i know this is just kicking a can down the road, but i feel 7 is slightly too young.
Also my approach has always been, tell her the truth as age appropriately as poss. Ive never wanted to say she doesnt have a dad or say anything bad about him.
I guess im asking for ppl who have been in this situation where the dad totally wasnt on the scene, what you said, how you handled it? Any tips?
Thank you x