Grandparents and COVID

[FirstTimer2020]

I am looking for the general views of mothers with young babies and what they are now doing in regards to their babies and grandparents. I know this is VERY controversial, so please don't judge one another. I have followed all the rules, but my family no longer are and I feel terrible for the grandparents not having held my baby since she was 2 months old. I know you can go into houses now with distancing but I live in a small house where that's not really possible. Just conscious that if other people are interacting as normal, I'm putting our household at risk and I am a very anxious person. What are you doing and how do you cope with the worries???

We are still following the rules.

Im still being careful. My son's aunt is going to blackpool next week and in my opinion its too risky to let her see my 7 month old when she gets back especially now he can see his great grandparents who are in their 80s. Ive told her she cant see DS until she's had a test.

Ive told her she cant see DS until she's had a test.

Because she’s going to Blackpool?! Are you going to make relatives get a test every week if they are at work before you see them? You must know that you are being a bit ridiculous here.

@PotteringAlong everyone has their own circumstances, I know this is a very controversial subject and I wanted to see what everyone was doing but I also asked not to judge other people because it's not fair to make other people feel guilty about the way they feel.

The ‘rules’ Also state you can use grandparents as childcare.

My parents have been holding my baby. He was born in lockdown. They have been virtually no where. I’m happy with the decision I’ve made.

I think it probably depends in what way they're bit following the rules. Could you start with meeting outside?

@Wherethereshope just in the sense they have been in close proximity with other family members and some of those family members are hugging friends and just generally doing what they want. We've been having them in our garden all the time but I am struggling with anxieties when it comes to hugging etc.

huh? quarantine is over grandparents can hug their grandchildren now.

@ZombieFan wtf? No it isn’t, there are still rules in place. You’re not supposed to meet more than 6 people outside your house, you can have another household into your house (only one at a time) but need to keep distance and you can bubble with a single other adult.

As long as my parents aren’t being wreckless, eg eating out every night, going to lots of crowded spaces, I’m letting them round when they like and they hug my children.

I know it’s an anxious time, but this is going to go on for months, years maybe. We’ve got to learn to live some kind of normal life.

@FirstTimer2020 oh I know it is difficult. Go with what you're comfortable with, there's no need to rush.

To be honest while infections levels are lowest they’ve been it’s probably the safest time to hug. If you feel that you are all reasonably safe.

I think at this point you do what you feel is right for you and your closest. People are out and about and going on holiday and to the pub etc. It’s probably the safest time before winter hits and the possible increase in cases mixed with winter germs.

If people act thoughtfully and sensibly without going OTT it would help .....

@PotteringAlong, not really. We live in Scotland in an area that hasn't really been hit by covid. Yes, if any of my family went on holiday I'd treat them the same, myself included. Plus her father is shielding and she lives with him. She'd have to get a test anyway before she gets home.