10 Month Old parenting difficulties 😩

[Rosequeen]

Help!!

I have a 10 month old little boy and he literally requires my attention 24/7! I’m so exhausted, he constantly needs me to play with him to the point I spend every waking hour trying to keep him entertained. He gets bored about 5 minutes after everything I suggest and if I don’t show him attention he will scream and cry until he’s purple in the face.

I rarely leave the house as whenever I attempt to get ready the screaming and crying will begin, it’s really started to drain me. Eating and drinking is also difficult I just don’t get a minute.

Most of my family work and cannot help and my partner works everyday and does what he can when he gets home but I just feel alone and exhausted!

He also doesn’t sleep through the night even with a strict routine, he won’t sleep on his own and needs to be rocked to sleep in my arms, I don’t know how much longer I can take without completely burning myself out.

I would leave him to cry it out but I worry once he starts going purple, also my neighbour works nights and I’m conscious all they'll hear is him crying.

Does anyone have any suggestions??

No suggestions really but sympathy as also have a 10 month old ds who is exhausting! Even though it does sound like yours is quite intense screaming and crying for attention.
Mine also doesn't sleep through, still waking up a few times a night and always feeds or is rocked to sleep.
How is he with feeding himself? I find when he's eating it takes him longer so can eat / do sometbing for myself at this time.
Does he enjoy Bath time? Not very glamourous but could you eat / have a cup of tea / get ready to go out in the bathroom while he is in the bath?
I always find it easier taking my one out everyday as there is so much more for him to look at / be entertained by than at home.
My ds also loves rooting through my makeup bag so while I'm doing my makeup he's playing with it too (however can take the lids off things so needs monitoring quite closely).
I hope it gets easier for you soon

My 'baby' is now 7yrs old so no recent experience but I do remember how relentless this age seemed, going back to work when he was 10mths was like a holiday to me.

One thing I would say though is please try to get out the house most days, even if it is just for a walk using the pram. Baby gets fresh air and stimulation, you get some hands free and brain rest time. Being out and about should hopefully aid with sleep too.

10 months is a shit age! I had a screamer too. Honestly up until 18 months, I thought it would never get better. DD is two now and she is a DREAM. She just hated being a baby, she was ridiculously active, very sensitive and would get very overtired. We didn’t have much of a life because she hated the car/ buggy.

Also. Perfectly normal to not sleep through the night at that age. I felt the same as you, but I just kept comforting/ breastfeeding her and she naturally slept through at about 12 months.

Try to go out if it makes you feel better, BUT if it doesn’t just stay in. I felt like I had to do everything with DD and put so much pressure on myself to go places when I think we would have both been much happier playing in the house/ garden.

I'll give a solidarity wave, you could be describing my nearly 10 month old.

Thankfully he will happily play on his own (partly down to having his four year old brother who is equally demanding) but he is half crawling, half walking and really frustrated because he can't walk yet and can't keep up with us.

I spend my days making sure shoes are up high because that's his favourite snack.

Doesn't sleep through the night unless he's starfished between myself and DH. He's in our bedroom at the moment while we have building work done, he takes a while to settle but sleeps well until he hears me come up to bed and then he's furious if he's left in the crib and not in bed.

Looking back I remember 9/10/11 months being really hard with DS1 mainly because of the sleep issues and the frustration at not being totally mobile. But he's now four and sleeps from 7pm-8:30am and has done for about two years so it does get better. But in the moment it's bloody tough to get through!

Thanks everyone for all of the tips,
I’ll give them a try, glad to know I’m not on my own here! I’m due back in work soon so I’ll be getting a rest, I feel for the nursery that he’s going to haha.

He was born 3 months early so he should now be 7 months and spent a lot of time in neo, they told me to expect him to be behind and quite lazy but he seems to be the opposite so as hard as he is, I’m really pleased about.

Strawbereywaffles, I’m in exactly the same situation you were , he is forever crawling all over everything he shouldn’t be, pulling himself up of everything and literally does not stop lol!

Hates the car, hates his pram, likes anything he shouldn’t. His favourite being wires lol

I hope the ones who are in this boat right now get a break soon ☺️ We all bloody deserve it x

Google heuristic play & treasure baskets.

Hey, another mummy with a similar baby here. However I notice when I do manage to get out, he is so SO much better. Even just going to a playground.

We are out and about 5 days out of 7 (9am-3pm) and it helps loads.

The way I make it work (the only way) is get ready in the morning when he is sufferable and slightly more patient. Then we leave and out and about he is much better. Evenings are hellish, but hey, can't have it all I guess.