Nightmares and night terrors please help

[iamtheoneandonlyyy]

My daughter is 3. I've recently separated from her dad due to emotional abuse. It's been hard but all of the children have coped well. This was about a month ago
He wasn't nasty to the children so obviously being small they are missing him but see him regularly
About a week ago my daughter had a night terror and it was awful.
Now she's only lasting an hour or so asleep befire running through to me drenched in sweat shaking and trembling. She says there are monsters bullying her
I let her sleep in with me as I want her to feel secure but I do t know how to help it stop for her.
I also co sleep with my one year old and they disturb each other all night.
I'm running on fumes myself

Night terrors are very upsetting to deal with.
There’s a method that involves waking them up just before they have the night terror (I used to do it by sitting ds on the toilet) which breaks the pattern.

Here you go - the NHS page explains it.

I recommend trying to touch her as little as possible. My DD used to suffer terribly and a lovely Mumsnetter advised me to just 'be there' rather than try to pick her up or snap her out of it and it worked wonders.

Settled back down in record time.

I did read about that, Thankyou. She's calmed down the screaming side of things.
I don't know how to get her to try her bed again or if I just leave it and follow her lead but I'd really like her to be happy asleep not scared 😟poor thing she's just come running through dripping with sweat and trembling. Earlier than normal

Sorry to hear about the need to separate, you are dealing with a lot, and doing a fab job I am sure . My daughter had fairly frequent night terrors aged 3, now at 4.5 she has maybe had one in last 6 months. It is distressing, and hard not to relate to them as if they are conscious, but I agree with pp, just being with them without much intervention is the best thing. When I intervened she seemed to fight me more. Nightmares are different though, plenty of cuddles for those.

Have you tried anything that could ‘protect me her? We have a big unicorn that we used to ask to watch over her at night. Dream catchers?

My son used to get them. An artticle I read at time indicated that it’s also to do with getting too hot at night, so I dressed him in pj bottoms only and lighter covers and it stopped them.
If your dc is in with you that could be adding to the body heat.
I’ll try to find an article on night terrors and being too hot

Thankyou I'm trying to minimise the stress for us all. In general we are a lot better off this way but it's hard for them to understand. Their dad isn't too helpful in this
She has a few toys around her and every night we spray fairy spray but I almost feel it's being too much of a big deal and making her focus on it.
She slept at her dads and of course it didn't happen there 🙄. But he has to share with them so she's not alone.
I feel for her the poor thing.
She's back in her bed asleep and I'm sitting near her now. When I lifted her off of my bed she opened her eyes and was jerking her head scanning the room.

Thankyou I'm trying to minimise the stress for us all. In general we are a lot better off this way but it's hard for them to understand. Their dad isn't too helpful in this
She has a few toys around her and every night we spray fairy spray but I almost feel it's being too much of a big deal and making her focus on it.
She slept at her dads and of course it didn't happen there 🙄. But he has to share with them so she's not alone.
I feel for her the poor thing.
She's back in her bed asleep and I'm sitting near her now. When I lifted her off of my bed she opened her eyes and was jerking her head scanning the room.