Am I in the wrong?

[mumme111]

Hi! My ex partner is taking our daughter away for a week in August but he won't tell me where! Am I wrong in thinking he should or I shouldn't let her go? Thank you xx

Abroad?

No it's the Uk I've got her passport and hopefully he hasn't applied for another one in secret x he was always very controlling in the relationship so I think that's why he won't tell me but he's a strange one and now I'm worried x

@mumme111

Hi! My ex partner is taking our daughter away for a week in August but he won't tell me where! Am I wrong in thinking he should or I shouldn't let her go? Thank you xx

I wouldn't be letting little one go, in my humble opinion. You's both have as much right to the child to each other and I'm assuming you wouldn't or haven't done this to him before so why should it be okay for him to go on like this? I'm super over protective of my daughter when it comes to things like this, if my ex did try to pull this one on me, even if he told me where they were going after saying he wasn't going to tell me, I'd still tell him no and that would be stuck too. I honestly think it's another way to control and manipulate you x

Flip it op - would you be happy to have him know your holiday plans??

He knows everything and everywhere we go as I think it's important in case of emergencies and common decency and safety but he's not returning the favour x legally can I stop him taking her now? X

He isn't decent... Start keeping your business to yourself. He has no right to know your 24 /7 movements.
You have the right to enjoy your dc also. I doubt a court would agree he can't take her on holiday..

Ok thanks guys might buy a tracker x

Make him tell you where he is going or he can't take her. Tell him you'll call the hotel where they're staying after they arrive and if the front desk says they're not there you'll inform the police your child has been kidnapped.

if he has equal parental rights as you do, i don't think you can insist on this or not allow her to go.
after all she does not belong to you.
i can understand your concern but this question has come up before and the consensus was that legally, unless your have got a specific court order restricting/ directing what he has to do in relation to her, then you cannot impose conditions.

I think it’s shitty but unfortunately this is the way it is and you can’t stop them. Don’t buy a tracker. He’s her father, she will be fine. But, I agree with others that you don’t have to constantly let him know your movements either.

Good grief, no. He seriously thinks you shouldn’t know where your child is?

@TigerQuoll

Make him tell you where he is going or he can't take her. Tell him you'll call the hotel where they're staying after they arrive and if the front desk says they're not there you'll inform the police your child has been kidnapped.

I also think this is really bad advice.

He’s doing this to provoke a reaction from you and stress you out. Take a deep breath and don’t rise to it. She will be fine.

You should know - what if something happens & he loses his mobile or something. You should have another potential connection option. Good luck

I agree with PP, you should know for emergencies, but you have no actual right to know. What he does with his child on his time is his business, as long as it's not harmful or illegal, and he doesn't need to tell you. You can't stop her going with him, that would be unfair. You may just need to suck it up as a consequence of having a child with a bad man, unfortunately.