Please help me teach dc about feelings

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I have ds 8 (asd) and dd 5. I dont feel very confident in my abilities to explain emotions and help dc deal with them. Dd in particular goes 0-60 very quickly, and I would like her to be a bit more robust. Eg she said another girl at preschool made her so angry it was like a ghost took over her body.

My parents NEVER talked about anything like this and I was left to work it out for myself. Id like my dc to be better equipped for adulthood than I was. Could anyone recommend books or websites or games or anything really? I've googled and seem to get hits for a mindfulness journal which I dont think she is really ready for yet.

From a young age I have tried to describe the feelings my DC are having while they're having them, so like "I can tell you're disappointed/angry/sad but we have to do this" etc. There was a really good section about feelings in a book I read called "the book you wish your parents had read" by Philippa Perry that was really interesting on this subject, I'd recommend that book.

Thanks will look it up.

Try these books www.kmart.com.au/product/the-when-im-feeling-collection---pack-of-8-books/1125325

I have found the Love While Parenting app really eye opening. It's free and run by a non profit. It's all about how to create deep bonds with your child by helping them label their emotions. Worth a go - very short lessons in mostly video form.

Oh I like the sound of the app and those books.

Second the when I'm feeling books, they've been really useful in our house

I’ve just bought ‘The Hidden Chimp’ for my DS, 8, who struggled to control his emotions. It’s worked wonders already. He does a bit each night. They read it, cartoon style, then complete little exercises.

Im feeling books are really expensive unfortunately and not available at the library but have ordered the chimp one. I'll download the book you wish your parents had read.

I'm a counsellor working in schools and mood cards can be really helpful. They're only a few quid on amazon. You can make it into a game in quiet peaceful times, and can be great for reflection after arguments/challenges to work out what happened.
Tbh if you are already working on discussing feelings then undoubtedly you are already doing more than you know. And it is really valuable.
Have you all watched the film Inside Out together? That's a great film about labelling and accepting all the emotions that we feel.

Oh Id forgotten about Inside Out! That seems really obvious now. Will investigate mood cards too.