MIL thinks she knows best

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I just wanted to let off some steam and moan about my MIL!!! I feel like she thinks she knows whats best for my son and not me, whether its what he is wearing, to what he eats and how much, to when and where we should go out to play, to what time he goes to bed etc!! It sometimes has me even doubting myself!! I mean, I know she does mean well, but she is always sticking her oar in and undermining me!! Yesterday, I was feeding my 16 month old son some cherries which I cut up small (the MIL watching every moment like a hawk).... then all of a sudden, the MIL tries to put in my son's mouth a whole (pitted) cherry!!! My motherly instinct was to ashamedly slap her hand away (who knows where the cherry went) and say "What? A WHOLE cherry?" to which she replied quite authoritatively "YES"!!! I am always worried that I haven't cut up his food small enough and am worried he will choke! Luckily the situation finished there, and I continued to feed my son the cherries to sizes as I saw fit!! Does anyone else have a domineering MIL who belittles you? Was I wrong to slap her hand away? (I do actually feel bad about that!) Do you feed your 16 month olds whole (pitted) cherries?

@notthemum Thank you!! We all live in a close knit town and I see her most days... AND all the family go to hers for dinner once a week 😤🤬 Ohhhhh I can rant and rave about her all day long!!!!!

You poor thing. I don't really have much more advice at the moment. But I am here if you just want to moan.
Thank God I never got as far as having a MIL. I have very strong opinions on some things and definitely would not have kept my mouth shut. I think I would definitely have been thought of as a terrible DIL. Would Di have cared ? Not a bloody fig.

Thank you all for your replies! Made me realise that I mustn't doubt myself and to stick up for what I think is right concerning my son! Thank you again and sorry for late reply xx

I could have written this😭😭 (not the cherry part - but a whole cherry.. wow I don’t think I could eat a whole one as an adult) I am grateful for all my MIL does but she doesn’t half take over! When we go round I hardly see my own child. Through the doors and she’s gone! she also goes against everything I say and sometimes stresses me out by doing things I have asked many time for her not to do (kiss her with cold sores, feed her things I don’t want to feed her normally crisps or things that are not healthy). I could go on hahah (I sometimes have to laugh about it or else I’ll cry or scream)

Why shouldn’t you use English? Do You live in England? The schools teach in English?