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New parent anxieties... help!

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Haribo1985 · 08/07/2020 22:33

Good Evening all... long time lurker here, in need of people to tell me I am just over-thinking this and being silly.

My DH and I have just become first time parents after a long journey and a few losses trying to get here. For background, I am a naturally anxious person anyway, and always take a rather OTT 'safety first' policy in everything in life!

I was cradling our

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Aquamarine1029 · 08/07/2020 22:37

You are absolutely worrying over nothing. Your baby is perfectly fine and I'm sure you're a wonderful mum. Don't allow silly anxieties to rob you of the joy of having your new baby. We all learn as we go along!

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Haribo1985 · 08/07/2020 22:43

Thank you Aquamarine... you are so right that the anxiety could take away the joy of having what we so desperately wanted. I think I need to take that on board x

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mommymooo · 08/07/2020 22:48

I'm sure your gorgeous new born will be fine. I was the same looking back I have to laugh at the crazy things I over thought about. And yes one was eating bath bubbles because some went by his face.
Enjoy every moment it goes far to quickly xx

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Haribo1985 · 08/07/2020 22:54

Thank you Mommymooo... its reassuring to be reminded I'm not the only parent overthinking things, and I'm pretty sure I wont be the last either!! X

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Lou573 · 08/07/2020 22:56

If babies were that fragile the human race would have died out long ago! I recall being worried for days that we’d pushed the pram along a really bumpy path and wobbled the baby, so you’re not alone. They’re tougher than they look though!

Aquamarine1029 · 08/07/2020 22:57

Also, please don't forget that your baby is barely a week old and your hormones are allll over the place, which certainly doesn't help with being anxious. You are clearly a loving, conscientious mum who would never do anything reckless to harm your baby. You are and will do brilliantly.

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Haribo1985 · 08/07/2020 23:14

Lou, I love the bumpy path story... that is definately something I would do!
Aqua, I didn't even think about the hormonal aspect! Thank you for the kind words.
Thanks for the reassurance all of you... I definately feel I can at least go to sleep, and stop obsessively watching his chest rising and falling in his basket! X

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Teacaketotty · 08/07/2020 23:17

OP we’ve all been there, PP is right about the hormones they will not be helping! Your baby is still so new it’s natural to feel anxiety.

It does get easier and you worry less, gaining confidence in your self - plus they get sturdier pretty quickly! I am guilty of watching my one year old breathing on the baby monitor at night from time to time so it doesn’t completely go away.

SingingSands · 09/07/2020 00:26

I remember worrying that the low passing aeroplanes would damage my delicate newborn's hearing when we were in the garden. (We live near a regional airport).

She's now 16. I still worry about her, like crazy! It's part of being a mother.

Congratulations on your baby, and may he always be surrounded by your love and laughter

Roadrunner550 · 09/07/2020 08:22

I can relate! We wrapped our baby in a blanket and took her out to the doorstep to ‘clap for carers’ when she was a few weeks old. My partner held her and clapped at the same time and I was worrying for hours afterwards that he had clapped too vigorously and shaken her 🙈

I have also worried about the pram along the bumpy path AND the bath bubbles getting into her mouth!

beansontoast20 · 09/07/2020 09:34

I was changing my DS and had yet to fully grasp the fact he's a boy and has a wonderful power to soak everything in sight. He weed all over himself and then had a sleepy day so I spent the entire day in a panic that him weeing on himself had caused some serious damage, honestly!

Sure you're doing a great job, don't be too hard on yourself at all

FizzingWhizzbee123 · 09/07/2020 17:28

I remember DH feeling awful for ages after nipping DS’s finger when trying to cut his tiny nails.

And when DS was learning to cruise and would fall over and bang his head ALL the time. DH couldn’t understand why DD always hit his head when he was with me and came close to accusing me of not watching him properly! I pointed out it was because I was on mat leave and DS was spending much more time with me, so statistically I’d witness more bumps. I explained that even watching like hawk, sometime kids just fall and you can’t catch them in time. Anyway, DS was hanging off DH’s legs during this conversation and promptly toppled backward and bashed his head! DH felt awful and never raised it again 😂

DH is much more relaxed now that DS is bigger and more robust. If you’re worrying about things, it indicates your thinking about things and are doing a great job. Just don’t OVER worry, things will be fine.

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