Help?

[BubblesAndBabys]

Hi all,

My partner has decided he wants to separate.
He has bought a house (3 bedroom house) we initially thought we would be all be moving together but soon as it went through and mortgage accepted a few weeks ago he said he he will be moving alone.. he had this plan all along which I find really upsetting and deceptive. I had been really excited and was planning on decorating my daughters room in the new house so it's all just a shock to me!

He will help pay rent on the house we live in at the moment for 2 months and then I need to find alternative accommodation for me and my 2yr old daughter!!

Any advice for me? I am self employed with a turnover of approx 14k a year before tax!

I haven't claimed any benefits ever so I don't know where to start, but I understand I can't claim until he actually moves out into his own house (which is next month)

Also any advice on how I explain things to my 2.5yr old daughter that daddy won't be here anymore? And they will be two houses she lives in?

I'm so sorry.
In terms of how to explain it to your dd, could you and your DP sit down with her and read her this book?
www.bookdepository.com/Two-Homes-Claire-Masurel/9780763619848/#
and then answer any questions she does have, and check she understands what the book says.
In terms of benefits, try using the entitledto benefits calculator (link included). It will tell you what benefits you are entitled to and will give you more info on how to claim them.

all the best

Is your name on the house OP?

What an absolute, scheming arsehole!

He'd not be having contact with our child and I would be remaining in the rental property! He cannot 'give you' x amount of time to find elsewhere! Who the hell does he think he is?!

You can start to claim now as you have effectively separated (move yourself into dds room and start to break yourself away from him).

You will need to register for UC. You will likely receive support towards your rent, dc childcare. Once he moves out you can then get a discount on council tax too.

Please also make sure that you and he arrange child support payments and a regular schedule for dd to go to his.

Please do not get into the habit of sending her with a bag full of clothes and food etc - he needs to ensure he has all of that.

In the meantime, put your dcs documents somewhere safe (passport, birth cert etc).

Are you listed as a tenant on the rental? Have you and he bought the house together?

He'd not be having contact with our child

@Welcometothe36to40Box

What an absolute, scheming arsehole!

He'd not be having contact with our child and I would be remaining in the rental property! He cannot 'give you' x amount of time to find elsewhere! Who the hell does he think he is?!

Yeah...’cos that’s a reason to refuse contact!

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

You can start to claim now as you have effectively separated (move yourself into dds room and start to break yourself away from him).

You will need to register for UC. You will likely receive support towards your rent, dc childcare. Once he moves out you can then get a discount on council tax too.

Please also make sure that you and he arrange child support payments and a regular schedule for dd to go to his.

Please do not get into the habit of sending her with a bag full of clothes and food etc - he needs to ensure he has all of that.

In the meantime, put your dcs documents somewhere safe (passport, birth cert etc).

Are you listed as a tenant on the rental? Have you and he bought the house together?

Thanks so much for your reply,

I am obviously so destroyed by all this! My head is completely up my ass!

But yes I am a Tennent on the rented property that we currently share together! I only earn 14k before tax as self employed and our rent is £990 a month! So it's impossible for me to stay here alone!

he's bought his 3 bedroom home himself for him to move into.

Xx

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

You can start to claim now as you have effectively separated (move yourself into dds room and start to break yourself away from him).

You will need to register for UC. You will likely receive support towards your rent, dc childcare. Once he moves out you can then get a discount on council tax too.

Please also make sure that you and he arrange child support payments and a regular schedule for dd to go to his.

Please do not get into the habit of sending her with a bag full of clothes and food etc - he needs to ensure he has all of that.

In the meantime, put your dcs documents somewhere safe (passport, birth cert etc).

Are you listed as a tenant on the rental? Have you and he bought the house together?

Thanks so much for your reply,

I am obviously so destroyed by all this! My head is completely up my ass!

But yes I am a Tennent on the rented property that we currently share together! I only earn 14k before tax as self employed and our rent is £990 a month! So it's impossible for me to stay here alone!

he's bought his 3 bedroom home himself for him to move into.

Xx

OP I suggest going to "entitled to" online and putting in all your figures as if you were there alone now. There is a housing element of UC so you will likely get help towards your rent.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

OP I suggest going to "entitled to" online and putting in all your figures as if you were there alone now. There is a housing element of UC so you will likely get help towards your rent.

Not sure if I am doing it right but it just says I am entitled to £21 child benefit a week?

Xx

Have you completed it as if you are single? Living alone?

Do you have childcare bills? If you were living alone what would your childcare bills be?

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Have you completed it as if you are single? Living alone?

Do you have childcare bills? If you were living alone what would your childcare bills be?

Yes I did,

Maybe because I earn approx 14k before tax??

I don't know?

If you can’t afford where you’re living now I’d recommend getting yourself on the council house waiting list straight away (unless you’re totally opposed to that, or know you can afford to rent somewhere big enough for you and your daughter and would prefer to do that) as he’s basically making you homeless so you’ll be quite high priority and the rent is much more affordable plus you’re allowed to decorate them how you want without getting permission from a landlord.