Mediation with dadj

[Ruacai89]

Hi I'm hoping someone can help. I'm wanting to get set days in place for kids dad to have them. As he is all over the place with taking them and I'm due to go back to work soon. He is spiteful and will make my life difficult to please him. How do I start the ball rolling? A solicitor? X

You can contact a mediation service direct. Just google what is local. It isn't legally binding though and if he is really difficult you may end up in court if you want something you can hold him to.

I would prefer to go to court so he can't break it. Is there a way to just go straight there?

You could deny him access at any time other than what has been agreed and let him instigate court proceedings if he can be bothered. The problem with court is it may not all go your way and you are stuck with it. For me, having a court order works though.

You can see a mediator and get them to sign your C100 form to say you have considered and rejected mediation but they will try to get you to do mediation before signing the form and the court may ask why you wouldn't.

You can download a C100 form and apply to the court once you have a mediator's signature. It costs £215 and you can represent yourself. If you have the money, maybe discuss with a solicitor first.