18 month old dosent seem to want mummy

[Mamma1234567]

Hi All

I'm hoping you can help or just share experiences.

My 18 month old little girl is going through what I hope is a phase of not wanting to come to me or preferring other people to do things for her. She is a daddy's girl through and through which I love the bond she has with her dad but dosent seem to want to come to me all that much I miss my cuddles 😫😫! Has anyone gone through anything similar?

I'm having the complete opposite and I'm really struggling to deal with not being able to do anything on my own like go toilet! :( sorry I can't be of much help! X

I had twins and one preferred daddy for a long time
He was fine if just me but when dad was home I didn’t get a look in.

They soon change though! They realise mums do the hard graft

@emma911030 aww bless you! I think it maybe can go one way or the other. I feel silly for getting upset but just hard when she lets other people do everything for her but dosent want mummy to do it! X

@GreenTulips aww really yeah my little girl is the same me and her she's absolutely fine! But her NaN was round last night and was going to to her and everything as well as dad so it seems not to just be a daddy thing can't help feel like I'm doing something wrong 🙈🙈

@Mamma1234567 I'm confident I'd be the same as you if it was the other way around. I'm sure it's probably 'just a phase' but she still loves you no matter what .. easier said than done but try not to let it consume you x

Thanks Hun! I'll try not let it get to me too much just hard! Hopefully this phase dosent last for too long x

@Mama1234567 I love this when this happens! I'm like oh he wants to hold daddy's hand, oh he wants daddy to feed him, oh he's done a pooh and wants daddy to change him. Embrace it whilst it lasts and grab yourself some time. 😂

Sometimes my 13 month old seems to flip-flop between me and DH for flavour of the month (or minute would be more accurate!) I think it's quite normal for children to have phases of having a favourite parent so try not to take it personally, I'm sure you'll get your cuddles again soon enough

If she fell and hurt herself or something she would want nobody but her mummy! Enjoy this time while you still can, dads can sometimes be a bit of a novelty as they tend to be with mum all the time. I can imagine it being hurtful but try not to take it personally, she loves you!!!

16 month old DS is EXACTLY the same. If I'm the only one in the house then he has no choice but to want me, but whenever anyone else is around I am merely the lady that makes him toast and nothing more. We had an architect round yesterday and he tried multiple times to break social distancing to go and give this man he'd never met a cuddle. Bloody charming.

@TheReigningLorelai sorry that made me laugh 😂 I genuinely think it’s because they just know mum is always there, and they feel secure enough in you to want to go explore!

This was me a few months ago, OP! I was so upset and felt invisible. My DS didn't want anything to do with me and even cried on a morning when I went in his room to get him dressed.

Fast forward 3/4 months and he doesn't leave me alone. 😂 Hang in there!