would you allow your daughter to stay at her boyfriends over night or vice versa? under 16!

[StingrayJax]

hi,

seams my lil girl of 15 is finally getting into her, im nearly 16 etc and i should be able to do what i want and i want to stay at my boyfriends house overnight and thats final.

So im just looking for a little advice as it was in my head that she would always be my lil girl and kinda hope this day wouldnt happen stupidly of course.

But from my time and my ways i cant and wouldnt allow this!

Am i being too old fashioned or am i right as i dont her to hate me and on the other hand i dont want to do the wrong thing, i know im a guy but it still upsets me that it came to this point and being stupid of not know which way to lean to :(

thanks for anyone that can take a few mins to help me on this

I'm the mother of an 18 year old son who has a 17 year old girlfriend. They've been together since they were 17 and 16. She is allowed to say here but 1) they have separate rooms 2) I've spoken to her parents and they know my rules 3) they're both over 16.
I wouldn't have let an under 16 year old girl stay. I can put all the rules in place but if they choose to sneak about in the night, I may not hear them. I also wouldn't have let my under 16 stay at his girlfriend's house, had they been together. They'll have been together a year in September and I'll possibly reconsider the separate rooms thing but since she's not 18 until the following April, I'll be speaking to her parents first and checking whether they are comfortable. He's off to uni in September, live in but fairly local. I've no doubt she'll stay over there but that will have nothing to do with me.
In short, personally, I'd want her to be at least 16 but even then, I'd be agreeing ground rules with the boyfriend's parents.

No, you are right to not allow 'overnighters' for a girl under 16. I'd be very surprised if her boyfriend's parents did.

Your rule is not going to stop them having sex though, that's life I'm afraid. All you can do is make sure she knows all about contraception.

NO, not a chance, not in a million years .
Your daughter is 15, why would she want to stay over?
Tell her she can see him till 10 pm then see him again the following morning at 10 am .?
Also do you know his family ?
And where would she be sleeping ?

I probably wouldn’t have an issue with it, providing you lay down a few ground rules. If they want to have a sexual relationship they will anyway. Let her know you trust her but emphasis that you without your consent if she gives her reason to.