Ok, so my Daughter decided she wanted to stay with her Dad when I moved a few years ago for work. Now she has told him that she wants to live with me. She is turning 11 soon. She says to him that he is too strict (he is controlling which is part of the reason I left). She has not told me this yet (next due to see her August for school holidays). Ex has told her to finish her junior school and then decide, if she is very unhappy do I make her stick it out or try and talk to him about it? Just to be clear he has a child arrangement order in his favour currently (although we know if we agree we don't have to vary that in court).