Grandparent pressure - really upset

[Froggles1]

Hi all,

Just looking for some advice. My parents normally look after my DC twice a week but since lockdown this obviously hasn’t been the case. We have recently seen them at social distance (we are in Wales so rules different here) and DC is going back to daycare this week.
They have been asking for last couple of weeks if they can have DC again. At the moment, this isn’t permitted here but they can’t see why they would be allowed to daycare and not to them (valid point)
They upset me today as accused me of not wanting them to look after DC 😔this isn’t true however atm it doesn’t work for a few reasons but also we are going through a big adjustment with daycare resuming.
My problem is they can be hurtful in the things they say. They are also easily influenced by my sibling who often plants seeds in their mind that we are ‘posh’ or don’t trust them with DC. I am so hurt that they have chosen to believe this.
My DH thinks I should message explaining why that’s not true but my parents are really awkward whenever I try and talk about feelings & would probably just want to brush it under the rug.
Can anyone relate?

I can relate OP. We are in England and while we can have people stay overnight, we are supposed to still maintain social distancing indoors. My mum works in a shop and to be honest my parents have been a bit lapse following the rules (people in their house, going in other peoples houses etc), and I said while I’m happy for my parents to come and stay Id like us to follow the rules when they come here. Unfortunately this involves us not having physical contact and my mum said I would be torturing her not allowing her to touch or hug my daughter 🙄🙄🙄🙄 she then went on to say what’s the point in even visiting.

You’d have thought the way she was going on about it, I’d been down 10 Downing Street and made up the rules with Boris.

How old are they?

I would tell them it's for their own safety as DCs are more likely to catch The Covid in daycare than anywhere else. Kids can be unknown carriers, and you wouldn't want them infection the GPs

@WhatWouldDominicDo they are just 60 and physically well etc. They just miss him & like the routine but I felt hurt that they would say I don’t want them!!