Pictures of baby online

[Whatshername20]

Hi all,

So was wondering how I can broach the issue with MIL and my own mum about posting photos of our baby online? Because of both mine and OH's jobs, we have the most private of settings and know who our audience is. I've never referred to our baby by his name online and in 4 months, probably posted about 4 photos on Facebook sporadically. I don't have him in my profile picture/cover photo or those featured photos you can have.
I've been sending photos of DS to family so they can still see him whilst lockdown has been ongoing but now recently, my mum has used one to make a massive photo of his face her cover photo (which anyone can see regardless of being your friend). I sent MIL some catch up photos last night too and today, she's uploaded a photo of him and her when he was just born with one of the ones I've sent, using his name and writing a message to him (something that makes me cringe anyway when people do but I digress!). People have been commenting on it saying they didn't know she was a grandma but in my opinion, if they're not close enough to know that, they don't need to see photos of him.

I know it's not been done negatively, just proud, but as I say, our jobs have to require we're as private and safe as possible and I really don't want my child out to an audience I can't limit. I know some people won't see an issue with it, not asking for that, just how I can calmly raise my concerns without upsetting.
Thanks!

You should have made it clearer that they weren't to be public in the first place. As it is ...you will just have to tell them.

Just come out and say it OP. However I think the counter argument is going to be why can you post pictures and they can’t. Can you 100% trust all of the people you have as friends on Facebook to keep pictures of your DS private? Just seems a bit contradictory is all.

We told family when our DD was born that there weren’t going to be any pictures of her on social media, and they accepted it. Neither myself nor DH post pictures of her (we aren’t big on SM as it is and rarely post anyway, we are quite private people that way).

My in laws are forever posting photos so when LO was born I made it very clear and said no photos on social media. So far so good

My husband is a very private person so we don't have any pictures of DD online - we made this clear to everyone before she was born and we've never had any issues with it. Just tell them! Especially if you have safety concerns. You should really have addressed this to start with tbh.

If you have already told them not do do it and they still are then stop sending them pictures.

We had to do this to a family member because they shared photos without our permission.

I'm in the same position. DH and I said no pictures. DH put a photo of baby as his cover photo(i wasnt best pleased but she's his baby too) and I did a father's day post for him. Without asking his mum made my baby her profile picture and the next day my mum did the same. I can honestly say I know every single person on my social media and that my social media is very private because of my job. My husbands is the same. I can't guarantee that about his mum or my mum. They can't see the difference between my post/DH's photo and their profile picture. I cba with the argument so I've left it with just a reminder that I don't want my baby all over social media. Ill let them have their profile picture for now, but If they upload any other photos or change their profile picture to another photo of my baby then I'll be making sure it comes down. At the end of the day the photos they've uploaded have already been seen so removing it is pointless, all that can be done is damage control for the future.